Okay so today I figured out my crush is a homophobe and this is a heavy toll towards me and I'm upset, I still love because when I met him during track the first time he would always talk to me and that's something I loved him for because I had no one to talk to me during track and he would take that part. Now it's scary cuz he's a homophobe and I'm gay and that's a problem. Now I know what the answer is, find someone else, he's not right for you, this crush is going nowhere(Trevor already explained this to me) but the problem is how, how can I find someone better then him? I'm so lost. I need him to function (this is going to Maslows hierarchy of needs terms) because he's the one who fills my heart and by just seeing and being with him, I feel loved. The main point is: how do I find someone good for me, how can I diverge myself from this crush?
One way to get over him is for you to come out to him and have him actually and actively reject you. For a number of reasons, I absolutely would not do that. What may make more sense is to keep looking for other guys. You may not know of anyone better right now, but that doesn't mean you won't ever know of one.
he came into your life in an instance, left in an instance, the process shall continue (till it ends), i'm sorry
Ugh, having your crush be homophobic is so sad. (*hug*) Afraid I don't have much advice myself, but if you seek, you often find what once seemed to not be there. There are other wonderful guys out there, I know it's not the same but what if they make you feel even better?
If I knew the magic place to find an awesome bf I'd have found one for myself. School, LGBT groups, and online dating once you turn 18 might be good places to start. But just be on the lookout and be open to other guys coming along.
That's really tough. Sadly it just takes time. Please don't be tempted to tell your crush though, it wont make you feel better and could put you in danger. According to maslow the need for health outweighs the need for physical affection. Good luck
Just think about everything that is totally garbage about his personality, and how he is a homophobe. You would think you'd be immediately pissed off at him once you found out.
Honestly a lot of people say they are a homophobe when they're actually not, he might change his mind when you actually come out to him BUT don't tell him that you're into him or things might go bad. Cheers
