I behave masculine but look feminine, and I feel misunderstood by lesbians

I feel somewhat misunderstood by girls on dating sites. They see my pictures and assume I'm a lipstick lesbian. But although I have long hair and wear makeup (in 2 of my pictures), you can tell by what I've written about myself in my profile, that personality-wise I'm not really feminine. This one gorgeous girl had on her profile "message me if you wanna get to know me, and if you're butch" and I feel that I *am* masculine. Maybe not in the way I look, but the person I am, my core identity, is masculine. Of course, when I said "I'm butch! And I think I love you... etc, etc" (making sure she knew I was joking about the I love you part) she laughed (not in a rude way though) and said, "girrrrrl, how are you butch? hahaha!" I understand that just by looking at my pictures, she'd see a femme but I was hoping that wouldn't be the case. I don't know where I belong, and I don't know what to do. Because 1) I do enjoy wearing makeup and having long hair, 2) I naturally behave in a masculine way, and desire to be with a pretty, feminine girl in the way that a man would be with a woman (I realize that this is a crude way of putting it, and that many others don't like using the man/woman terms when describing lesbian relationships, but this is the clearest way I can put it). It seems that feminine girls either want other lipstick lesbians, which I am not, or they want butch lesbians, which they can't see me as. Other than change the way I look, which I wouldn't enjoy doing, what can I do? Also, are there other people like this out there? I'm not heartbroken or miserable or anything, I'm just a bit let down that it's always like this. Another time, there was this femme girl who liked other femme girls, and over time I could tell that she was becoming less into me, because I wasn't girly how she expected and wanted me to be.

Note: sorry about double post. I can't find the button to delete a thread.

 

How has dating been for you?

 

Setnyx yeah... That girl who said "how are you butch?" hasn't responded to me since. Not saying she owes it to me, no, she doesn't. But I just think if she got to know me, she would see my personality could really complement hers, since she's feminine and likes masculine lesbians.

Haha Kthomps, you might be my dream girl.

 

Yeah... I get more attention from straight men and butch lesbians. Not that I'm complaining. It flatters me that some people like me. Too bad it's not people I'm attracted to, aha.

 

Haha aw I'm sorry but I don't know Faith No More. My name zombie eater is just some weird handle I came up with, cause I like zombies.

 

thanks somenumber

hi stocking I wish there were more girls like you. It's nice that you think masculine personalities are hot. I have never been told my personality is hot before haha

 

Damn, I had no idea Cara Delevingne was bisexual (or lesbian?). That's really cool. I've always thought she was gorgeous.

It definitely seems that Michelle's personality is more butch with her appearance more feminine/neutral. I like that, heh. I have more hope now. Maybe I can get a girl like Cara one day.

Rainsprite, I don't really know how to describe it. I would say, though, that in terms of personality, I find mine more similar to that of the average guy's, rather than the average girl's.

 

Hmm, well it's the closest label to what I am. But yeah, Idk if you can see my avatar, (it's not showing up for me anywhere except when I'm at my profile) but I think I look like any other lipstick lesbian. It seems weird to me that I enjoy looking feminine but it's the complete opposite of my personality. Don't you think that's kind of weird? I don't think it's bad, but I'm just curious sometimes as to why I'm like this.