So, is this the right way of dealing with such a situation???

Hi there

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this...

My situation is a but uncomfortable today because I am NOT overtly homosexual, I have NOT officially "come out" of the closet yet and I don't know if I ever will...

So I cannot talk about my homosexuality-related problems wih family or friends. That annoys me a lot.

I have recently fallen in love with a guy in my workplace. He is the archetypical straight guy. He cannot even conceive the possibility of a relationship between two guys. For him this is abnormal. Since I understood that such a love will always remain unrequited, I tried at first to be his friend. I started to talk a lot with him, what is unusual for me, cause I'm a very shy man. Sometime ago, however, he started to actually ignore me. I went and asked him what I had done to him, and he was frank and said that I was being a bit intruding. He said we were not intimate friends and things should remain so. I asked myself if he had realized I'm into him, but he did not tell me. He now treats me with such a dreadful indifference it makes me sad. I even think about quitting my job so I won't have to see him again. Because I'm madly in love with him snd his indifference makes me want to die.

So I have recently found out a way to forget this guy at least for a while. I have recently known BADOO. I have met a lot of nice, educated, handsome guys there. Some of them I would actually like to date- but haven't done it so far. Why? Because, as I said, I am a little shy. And I am actually afraid of meeting one of those men and not feel excited enough to sleep with them (so to speak). I am afraid the guy realizes I'm just trying to use him to forget another guy, even for a while...

So, is this how I shoul deal with such a situation? How would you deal? Has anyone here ever gone through such an ordeal??