Help with my younger crush!

Okay I would like to start off by saying that I am a new member and this is my first post. :icon_bigg I hope to meet and share ideas with a lot of people!
I'll get to the point now. Well, I recently began to develop feelings for this guy in my Japanese class. He's a sophomore, and I'm a senior. That's the only class I share with him and I am the TA of the class (teacher's assistant). I have never actually engaged in conversation with him, but whenever I pass back a paper to him as part of my assistant's duties he often replies with a polite thank you, even though majority of the students (same grade and underclassmen) don't say anything. We sit on opposite sides of the room, but I occasionally do catch him glancing at me (since I can't help but do that too).
Ever since I realized I have growing feelings for him, I see him more often out of class. Recently our school had this class performance thingy and I saw him a lot (he saw me too). It was funny because the skit he was in involved being very touchy with other males. He was always onstage either having a hand around his shoulder or having a guy lie across his lap. My role in my play was just a backup dancer, but since I was a more experienced dancer I was in the spotlight more.
We had this night show and his performance was first. I of course watched him mostly. I was afraid because my performance was way later that night, and I didn't think he would stay to watch it since his finished earlier. I tried to keep an eye on where he was just for reference. And, to my surprise, he DID stay to watch mine!! :lol: its even more funny because we both watched each other's perf earlier that day during school, so i found it even sweeter. And guess what, shortly after my group's skit I saw him leave. So it seemed like he stayed to watch me. :icon_bigg (The dance I performed involved me rotating my butt and all too LOL)
My main concern is, how can I advance things, like actually talk to him? The TA class I have him in has seating arrangements, and there are students surrounding him. My side is a bit more spacious. I find it too difficult to start a convo since that's how the seating is. And the fact that I'm a TA and I can't really pair up with him or anything for projects.
As for knowing if he's gay or not, i'm still unsure, but I'm leaning towards he's likely to be interested in guys. He usually socializes with mostly girls, and he's even mutually friends with a gay guy that I know! Except that guy is not really close to me since he is also a sophomore. I also have a pretty experienced gaydar, since I've had gut feelings about certain guys and crushes. Even if I knew they were straight, I still pursued them :/
I hope you guys can help me out with this. I apologize if I wrote a lot!! It's just that I have a lot of thoughts and I really want to see if I can actually at least attempt to get close to him. I find myself thinking about him more each day :icon_sad: thanks for any input and suggestions! :icon_bigg

 

I actually considered that but I didn't want to seem like a creeper XD because yeah, I didn't really ever strike up a convo irl, so it seems kinda strange to add him on a social website :0

 

Haha, don't worry, I definitely know what you're trying to say. Since I sit next to my friends in that class who are students, I tend to talk to them a lot, which gets me in trouble with the teacher :lol:
I thought I would try saying hi to him more often, but I hope it doesn't come off as strange XD and I wanted to maybe help him with work during class, but I don't know how to go through with that, since he's surrounded by people x__x welp.

And I apologize because I'm going to be replying to these posts one by on... so sorry if I reply to one but forget about another!

---------- Post added 27th Apr 2014 at 01:05 PM ----------

Haha well the thing is I just started messaging him on FB today, so the convo is just gradual. I don't know if I should just ask if he knows if my crush is gay x_x since we don't really know each other well. He might even tell him of my crush :eek: I guess all I can do is slowly get to know them both >__< the problem is just having the courage to talk to him randomly. LOL.

---------- Post added 27th Apr 2014 at 01:14 PM ----------

Oh wow :eek: That definitely sounds like a situation I've experienced before That's why I'm kind of hesitant to "confront" him about it, it's happened to me a lot.

But yeah, when you put it like that, it sounds pretty reasonable Maybe I'll wait until next week to see maybe if I can increase my socializing with him XD if I have to hand a paper to him, I'll try to add in a smile for him too

 

Yup, I know how you feel. I don't like it when people stare at me too, but I have no problem looking at someone else
Yeah I used to like this other guy, knew he was straight but still decided to try anyway LOL, ended up finding out he was homophobic :dry: some people are more oblivious to their tendencies I guess.

I hope so. :rolle: it was so strange because before I even had a crush on him, I saw him once outside of school at this restaurant. I was leaving and he just arrived. We were both with our families. I didn't really pay attention so I ended up just bypassing him, even if he was looking right at me. I still regret saying hi or something, because I usually have trouble thinking on the spot :tears:

 

Haha yep. I have a really bad tendency to stare at people whom I'm interested in, to the point where I'm craning my head drastically just to get a peek :lol: I think I can be way too obvious sometimes lol.

I just have to wait two more days until I see him again, since I only share the class two times a week mostly. I sometimes think of absurd situations in my head, like what would happen if I did this or that. I was thinking maybe I should catch him after class and ask if he needs help with any Japanese work, but that might be stretching it a little I'm too awkward to be that confident haha. So I'll just start with a smile I guess :rolle:

 

I'm sure you still have the chance to maybe try and talk to him too! Although starting a conversation out of the blue is a far shot, you never know.

Yup those are things I want to avoid him asking I don't want it to be obvious that I'm asking only him haha.

Besides, it can't be as far off as when I randomly started a convo with this guy I didn't even know, but I was interested in him. We always passed each other while going to class, and we didn't even share any classes, heck, we weren't even in the same grade! I just stopped him one day at passing and said like, "Hey, what's your name?" That's how it started anyway. Then it gradually built up to me asking his phone number and stuff. :lol: In the end, things got awkward because I didn't really see him that often and he didn't know English that well, and I kind of screwed everything up :lol: :lol: But you never know until you try, it just depends on who you try talking to the one I currently like seems pretty nice, unlike the other previous people, so maybe.

 

I know EXACTLY how you feel 0___0 I'm the same way pretty much. I'm really shy and withdrawn when it comes to new people.

I dunno, I really don't know how to stir up a good conversation. I'll probably ask my teacher if I can do other things to help her instead of just organizing her things for fifteen minutes and then sitting back down doing nothing for the rest of the period. :lol:

Yeah I've learned that sometimes people don't have the initiative but are just as eager to talk back if you open up the possibility :icon_bigg That's what happened to me, even if it was short-lived, at least I was brave enough to say hi first.

I don't mean to sound arrogant or anything but I think I'm pretty good-looking, I don't see why he wouldn't like me (unless he's straight, then it's perfectly understandable) :lol: Then again, only the guys that I don't really find attractive are the ones that have shown interest in me (personality-wise too, we don't click on a romantic level). Maybe when I smile more and maybe try to say hi to him once in a while out of class, then I'll try to add him on FB :rolle:

 

I'm 18

Yup, even if I keep trying to measure things out, I end up doing dumb awkward things :lol:

Sounds like a plan :rolle: I really don't like to associate with the majority of the people in that class, but I would definitely want to talk to him since he seems pretty cool :icon_wink

I've never been in a relationship with a guy, so that's why I feel kind of down... Some guys wanted to go out with me, but like I said, they aren't really my type Not to be mean, but yeah. I can be nice but I'm mostly the joking type, meaning I'm always laughing and being silly :lol: Maybe if we do get the chance to talk, I'll mention the whole night show skit performances and all that :rolle:

When you think the time is right, go for it! It's still a bit too early for me to jump the gun, so I'll take it slowly. If anything, we could both try to add our crushes at the same time! :lol: I just hope it's not too awkward and sudden.

 

Really? :lol:

Yeah the ones who asked me out knew I was bi haha. I'm pretty much out, like if you asked me what I was then I would say it. :lol:

Yup I have conflicting personality traits too~ Like I can be sociable and funny and out there, but at certain times, I usually prefer my alone time and time for myself, because I feel more at ease and I can think with more clarity. :icon_bigg

I accepted your friend request! Sorry I'm still new to this so I might not understand all the functions. I just feel so embarrassed to talk to him outside of class. Like it's so random that it would kinda be risky. My situation is just a bit more complicated, I guess. But I think as long as you get the ball rolling, things will be better from there on it. :rolle: So yeah, let's hope we can progress by next week!