So basically, when I moved the agreement was I'd be allowed to move if I was willing to babysit whenever needed. My mom seems to act like I'm willing to drop everything and go babysit for her whenever she needs me. And I don't want to piss her off or whatever but seriously- she up and wants me to spend the night so she can, at last minute, go out with friends to a casino. Didn't ask if I had plans. Didn't care if I wanted to. She's demanding I drop everything and go over. I had plans but at least this won't interfere with them. Seriously though. Is this normal? I could use some advice.
Is this babysitting happening everyday? Even though what she is doing there is kinda rude, it seems to be within the agreement... I could be wrong though. Than again nothing your mom does seems to be "normal"
Not everyday. Just whenever she needs me. Luckily, it's only once in a blue moon I have to babysit. But yeah. Getting all anxious again and I can't quite pinpoint exactly why.
Not really. Since I moved, my anxiety and depression basically went zip. I've been less anxious than I've been in years. It's only when I have to go to my mother's for any period of time that I feel like this.
I say put your foot down. Also may I ask why did you as an adult have to make an agreement with your mother to move out?
I wish. But I dunno. I think I'm the only one available to watch them. And feels like if I say no, it'll just make things really awkward later. But yeah... I didn't have income of my own or a car so couldn't just leave at my own will...
Makes sense you could tell her she needs to arrange a babysitting time that fits into your schedule and not to make last minute arrangements.
