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Is he hitting on me? Am I stupid >.<

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by StillHere, May 21, 2014.

  1. StillHere

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    Let's be clear I have close to none experience in flirting and dating guys. But here's how this is going down.

    I'm 16 and he's 17 or 18 (not sure). I'm in a class with him in school and we both know little about each other except that we like coding lol. But anywho, he's awkwardly cute and I like that about him, I'd date him if I could, but he's not out as far as I know and I can't tell if he is trying to get my interest. I am out completely.

    Well anyways, he started showing interest in me at a drivers ed class we have together. He asked for my phone and I gave it to him out of curiosity. He texted a number "hey bro" and then went on his phone and texted back "fuck you" in a playful manner since we were right next to each other.

    Moving on after drivers ed he texted me asking if I wanted to be his friend (again, he's a bit socially awkward so something kinda out of the blue and a bit childish is normal I think.) and I responded sure. He asked me what I was into and we exchanged some interests.

    But then the conversation went like this (copy/pasted):
    Him: "I like to eat food but also make fun of fat people. That best describes my life."
    Me: "Yep, I like food, but if making fun of fat people makes you happy go for it lol."
    Him: "You're not attracted to me?" (Note I honestly don't think he is fat at all.)
    Me: "You aren't fat"
    Him: "I am fat."
    Me: "You aren't even close, don't tell yourself that :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:"
    Him: "I think I am quite fat."
    Me: "No your perfectly fine, trust me. "

    And then he didn't respond...

    The part where he asks if I think he's attractive is what gets me, I do think he is and I probably should have hopped on that and complimented him. Idk what I'm doing lol.



    A side thing. During a break in class we (as in a group of guys) go to a frozen yogurt shop and I never buy any since I am dieting, but neither does he and he always gets right up next to me while we wait for the rest to buy their stuff. (He has friends that wait outside and he decides to stand with me rather than them..)

    I guess I'm just confused. Is he trying to get my attention or what, should I text him back, what should I text him?

    :bang:
     
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    This isn't very much to go on. Clearly, he at least enjoys being around you, so I doubt this will be the last you hear from him. Don't stress about things this early.
     
  3. StillHere

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    Before you made that message I rolled all the dice (In my mind) and told him I was attracted to him and kindly reminded him I was gay. After a couple of text of him saying he was just kidding about the previous texts he came out to me as gay... wow.

    I'm just flirting now with him, but I'm just surprised he trusted me with something like that.

    I'm just kinda happy right now haha
     
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    Well, that is one way to solve things. I hope everything goes well!
     
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    Haha, I was going to suggest being more direct, but this exceeded my expectations!
     
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    Well done! :eusa_clap
     
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    Congratulations. Enjoy your new deepened friendship.
     
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    That's how it's done. XD
     
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    Hahaha class
     
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    Smooth as a whistle.
     
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    That's the way to do it, straight forward all the way! I'm glad for you man!
    Enjoy!
     
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    Well that escalated quickly! But awesome! Way to go with being so forward! Best of luck!
     
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    If anyone's interested in a update.

    He came to my house today and talked for a good two hours, then my dad drove us to drivers ed (we both have it at the same time) and passed notes back and forth all night, held hands, everything is going great.
     
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    Excellent! I hope it all works out for the best. :thumbsup:

    By the way, excellent user image. I love Horton Hears a Who.
     
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    Cute!!!!!!! I'm so happy for you!!! Enjoy it to the fullest StillHere
     
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    Congratulations. Hope you too have an awesome time :wink: