So I have a boy friend that I got with before I fully accepted that I am lesbian, today I tried to tell him that I am gay but he was so sad and mad, I felt like such a horrible person for telling him the truth that I told him I was joking :/ I really want to break up with him and tell him that I am lesbian but it's so hard for me because he truthfully loves me and it crushed him to know...it hurts me to see the look in his eyes... Any advice on how to get this cleared up?:tears:
You really should tell him the truth. Even if it hurts his feelings, it's till better than stringing him along. If you break up he might be upset for a while, but eventually it will set him free to find someone who is attracted to him in a way you can't be. AND, if will also free you up to find someone who is more right for you.
See the problem is I'm afraid he's going to tell someone out of anger when I tell him the truth, he is the first person I'm going to come out to and I don't want him telling anyone else yet.
