Struggling with someone I got recently close with

Hi there, welcome to EC!

Okay so, has he shown any signs that he's getting fed up with you? Are you hypersensitive to what others say to/about you?

 

That's good that he isn't fed up with you. I think if you explain to him that sometimes your emotions make you crazy sometimes, then he will be ready for when you let your emotions run away. On top of that, give him permission to let you know when that happens, when you're not thinking rationally. But you can't let yourself get offended when that happens.

You could also invest in another friend who will be more understanding if your roommate isn't.

 

I'm 27 and hyper sensitive and I will say that telling your friend to let you know when your going overboard is a really good idea in my eyes.

Don't want to scare you but I had a friend that I talked to all the time. He would give me little advice here and there when I was bitching.

Little did he know (I think) how much I would complain about the same people/same things and I think he knew how much he couldn't help me so he never really said anything.

So one day I went off again about all the bad stuff going on (Mostly in my head), so I think he finally couldn't take it anymore and ended the friendship.(He hasn't talked to me in 5 yrs after a 9 yr friendship)

What I'm saying is that if he is a good friend, lean on his shoulder once and a while but don't go overboard with it.

Mix the bad with the good.. Have fun sometimes with the guy so when you are down and out it won't seem like it is a never ending spew of depressing conversations.

I know it is hard to tell when we are being hyper sensitive or actually having somebody being mean.. I've decided to just ask people, "Are you being serious are just screwing with me?". Let them know that you are hyper sensitive,if that's the case, and that they need to be more specific with what they are saying.

I hope you the best