This kind of took me by surprise. Am I thinking too hard?

Ask him if he was kidding... I tried to word it a few different ways, but couldn't find a way to make it cute and clever.

Might be easier to ask him if he likes you.. though that runs the risk as well of alienating him if he is not interested like that and was just joking around..

Maybe ask him about the kiss... "So, I have this vague notion that you kissed me that night we were drunk.... are you trying to tell me something?"

Good luck and let us know what you opt to do... Sounds like you like him back and you just never know with some guys... Heck he could be on here asking about you..

 

You can always text him something along the lines of "we would make an awesome gay couple, you're absolutely right ;D"

Sounds like he's in the exakt same position as you are but you never know.

I so agree with Hyaline, saying something jokingly abou the kiss (in a positive manner) might not be too bad.

When I was single and unsure about a guys flirting, I got drunk with them to see if the alcohol-imbued self-esteem would start something. Stupid stuff might happen, but something interesting might aswell. Alcohol is a dubbel-edged sword.

Good luck! Keep us posted!

 

Dude. He's obviously into you. Just come out to him. Even on the small chance he isn't, since he's vocal about LGBT rights and such he is certain to support you. However, if you want to stop him before he moves on, which might happen quicker than you think, I'd come out to him. You don't have to mention any of the past things about that relationship comment, or even the kiss right now. Just come out to him and see how he responds.

 

It's completely normal to feel nervous. I haven't been in a relationship yet, but when I am I'll most likely be a wreck leading up to it! But once you've surpassed that, and after some time, you'll hopefully form a very special bond with someone that loves you for who you are. If you're able to go through with this, it is most definitely worth it. However, to achieve it, you will need to take some risks.

That idea does sound nice just for a second opinion of someone close to you...but why not instead just tell your friend (the one who probably likes you) directly about your sexuality? I understand you're scared, but there isn't really a bad outcome that I can see. He is A. supportive (and vocal!) of gay rights, B. Probably gay/bi himself, and C. Probably has a crush on you. At the very least, he will support you for who you are!

The choice is ultimately yours, but you have my advice for you. Approach the situation in whatever way you feel would be best for you.

 

I second WW. There's no harm in coming out to him for obvious reasons, so just dive in; wait for or craft a good conversation to segue into coming out (my method of choice), or just kick down the closet door in a shower of sequins.

I also agree with WW about this guy's feelings to you. If your memory is to be believed, he's prolly hid feelings for a while that alcohol opened the floodgates to.

tldr: your chances look good, all that's left is to seize whatever fortune meets you. Good luck!

 

Great news!! Congrats man! If you are having exams soon, I agree that you should wait, that sort of distraction is not what you need right now. After freeing yourself of that, then you can calmly analyze everything and decide what to do then.

 

Congratulations! It takes courage and I'm glad that you and your friend are still on great terms!

Tell us how it goes and if you need help, post here and some smart dudes and dudettes will help!

 

I gotcha! Even though it's not him, you still made a step forward by coming out to another friend for support.

I'm sure you'll do wonderfully on those exams! Take your time and study, that should be your priority right now. Success to you and your friend.

 

I needed to look those terms up. Does Soho have a place for lgtb+ people? If so, then what you mean by "baptism of fire is that it will be a very uncomfortable experience? Or did I get the meaning wrong. Sorry for my limited knowledge on this haha

 

Even though it's a different friend, congrats! Takes courage anyways!

 

I guess the info I got was correct then haha. Well, he gave you the chance, it is up to you to take it or leave it. I'm sure it will be a very great experience in general if you do go. I mean, you will definitely learn and see many things. Every experience brings us knowledge and understanding, maybe you'll learn if this atmosphere is the kind for you? Or maybe not. But either way, it will help you learn more about yourself on that regard.

 

Hey,
Sorry if I'm posting in the wrong place. This is literally my first post ever lol.
I'm head over heels in love with my friend, who I think might be gay, but I'm terrified to risk everything by coming out to him. I can't tell if he's doing things that might tell me he's in the same boat, or if I'm just over analyzing everything he does and seeing things how I want to see them.
He's been single for at least 5 years and hasn't even been on a date in that time. He's incredibly sensitive. He's so cute and had plenty of interest from his female friends, yet he remains single. He claims to be straight but never talks about girls. One friend told me he's a virgin. Another asked me if I think he might be gay. There are so many other signs...
The problem is I'm so far in the closet that I can't get any closer to him than I already have. Another problem is that I only became his friend because I want to be with him so badly and now we're so close. We're pretty much best friends and I feel like such a fraud. He's the greatest person I've ever known and I couldn't handle losing him. I don't know what to do...