Is my friend gay? Please help, I feel depressed!!

Bring up gay topics or a mutual friend that is gay or if hes had a rough day just put extra emphasis (or say even if he was gay) that youll be his friend no matter what

 

I'm in a really similar situation right now. I agree that you should try bringing up gay topics, just to get a better idea of how he feels about everything. Don't imply that you think he's gay or randomly give him a "even if you were gay I'd be your pal" because that's either to blatant or too platonic. Maybe mention that you've questioned your sexuality if you guys are talking about love lives. Good luck!

 

How old are you guys?

You need to get more info from him.

 

I went through the same thing with my friend. We have been close for 6yr since I shared a place with him in college and in all that time he has never had a relationship, and a couple years ago when he wanted to leave Miami he did move to north Florida cause I was there, even though he had friends in Orlando. We spent almost every day together for 9 months, something that probably hastened the end of my long-suffered and ill-fated marriage. And I loved every minute of it, even though at that time I had no intention to ever act on or admit my true sexuality.

Then, after the seperation, he was the first person I came out to. By this time we're working together, living in his moms condo and carpooling. We had gone to a dive bar, gotten good and drunk and where sitting at home burning one, and the topic of people at work thinking we where gay came up because some of the temp guys had said a couple things. the convorsation progressed untill i said ''even I've wondered about you because you've not had a date in 5 years and your only 26". He said ''true, but I've never messed around with a man'' and I just sat there. normally this is the part where I say 'oh yea me neither' but I choked on the lie like I had choked on the truth 10 years ago when I had another best friend who was gay, but I went into denial about my feelings. We sat there in silence, the ticking seconds marking the rising tension in the room as he realized the meaning of my silence, and the long conversation that fallowed as we began hammering out how this effected our relationship. And it is a relationship, of sorts. We don't call it that much, but friends doesn't cover it.
Sometimes I still wonder if he'll come out later, or if he's just biding his time till the divorce is over and I have become more comfortable with being queer. But if my marriage taught me anything its that you take people as they are or not at all.

 

Idk. Both he and I are very introverted and have issues with women, and he just kind of embraces who he is. I know he's had sex in that time just nothing more serious than a one nighter and not much. At this point in things I really do think he's straight, maybe leaning towers asexual but not into men at all. And though it was hard to get over some of me feelings I'm happy with where he and I are, I consider myself lucky to have someone I love dearly to share a home and experiences with, and besides I don't prescribe to labels so why should I let my relationships be defined by them?