This is just a rant. I'm so annoyed, I've spent the whole day today accepting that I'm more lesbian and I'd be better off with a woman then I turn on the computer to see a beautiful man who I'd love to screw the shit out of. Suddenly, women aren't so appealing anymore, wtf. These gay/bi days are getting pretty crazy. I'm starting to feel like a pervert. I'm not one to check out random women, I'm more demi-sexual with them. I am with men also but it can be a bit more of a raw sexual attraction. I spent the weekend with my husband having great sex and feeling close to him only to have the thoughts about women creep on back. When I was with women before, I was also like this. Expect I am a bit more involved emotionally with women - the long term feelings are more intense then with a man. But then I meet an attractive man and the butterflies take over and I'm not interested in women as much anymore. I'm a very sexual person and going without sex with a man for a long time, the urge becomes so intense, but I LOVE women - at least long term wise. I can see myself spending a life with another woman - pretty much living with my best friend. I just keep getting knocked off my feet with these men. The urges to be with a woman is getting stronger and stronger. I'm started to dream about being with a woman...
It's society that makes you feel like a pervert for liking people of more than one gender. So screw that. Because bisexuality is a valid orientation, and the pressure you feel to choose is probably not very helpful to you. You don't seem to mention your husband in your post; how does he fit into your sexuality? Are you attracted to him? Some bisexuals are happy being monogamous; others want both genders in their lives in some way. Do you think you'd be happy staying with him but also pursuing other relationships with women?
Sounds like you're more physically attracted to men than emotionally. And with women you're more emotionally connected to them. I feel your pain, though I wouldn't say I'm exactly in your position. But I can imagine how difficult it can be. If I had to guess it sounds like you're slightly more interested in women. But you still have the urge to be with a man sexually. Understandable... Have you ever been with another female?
I know how you feel! Some days I feel so obsessed with women, then I get this strong romantic feeling for a man - However, when I'm craving sex, I don't want a man, I want a women, and I'm just like almost cursing my bisexuality in my head lol. I'm more demi-romantic with women and sexually attracted to them and I'm rarely sexually attracted to men, but I have strong emotional feelings for them sometimes. You seem to also be demi-romantic with women and you seem to have more a preference to be with a woman, and while you say you do like men, you are definitely more sexually attracted to them as well. I get that pain! I wish I was 50/50 or loved both genders in the same way - Or better yet, I really rather be straight! But since we can't change who we are, we just have to accept it. If you really want to be with a woman, then do that! And maybe to control your urges for men, you can maybe masturbate to male porn or something in your spare time - That is if your girlfriend minds! So yeah, I'd say you like women more and I think you should pursue a relationship with one if that's what you really like, because really, I think you should be in a relationship with someone you romantically like more, you know what I mean? Or you can also be in a relationship with a man, it's up to you!! Just let yourself see who you fall in love with and just let your sexuality do it's own thing. I hoped I helped a little! Let me know when you want to talk more
Yup, I've been in a few relationships with females. I'm always leaning to men more sexually, the 1st few times having sex with a female is ok but then it just becomes blah. My feelings for guys also go kind of overdrive when I don't act on them (like how the ones for females are right now. It's really confusing and annoying. And since sexuality is such a huge thing in my life I'm actually having a difficult time living like this. When I'm working, things ease up a bit. As in I don't have time to think about women all the time like I do now. The feelings that do make it through are the ones for my husband and other men. I've actually even stopped watching tv cause it just puts guys in my head...sigh.
I'm sorry that this is giving you a hard time, but wait, I didn't see you had a husband! >< Well, why don't you have sex with your husband then if you want to? Is it just because there is little time to do so? Are you saying that you aren't happy romantically with him and you are starting to fall more for other women? If that's the case, then you should let him know and not be in a relationship you aren't satisfied in. However, you are satisfied with him, then I would ask your husband to have more time to have sex, if that's okay with him. It seems like you aren't satisfied in this relationship though, are you?
I love having sex with my husband. But if I'm having a gay day then I hate it and I'm not into at all. I do love him a lot and I am happy with him, until I think about being with a woman then I get confused. Kind of like saying I naturally love chicken, like chicken is what I love having for lunch, it's so tasty, and makes me feel so warm and fuzzy, But the need for that steak is so much stronger...I still like that chicken though. (this is a comparison with just relationships not sex). Sex is more like - (men) Damn that chocolate is so freaking yummy, I want chocolate every night. It is the yummiest thing ever, when I'm in the mood I wanna lick chocolate everywhere. Sometimes I can't control my need for it, like I get taken over by an animal or something. Women - I like vanilla, it's ok sometimes, I feel really connected to vanilla, like they are the only flavour in the world, vanilla fills my belly but doesn't give me everything I want. I could so live without vanilla. I'd rather fantasize about chocolate. Sorry about the food comparisons, I must be hungry lol
LOL thanks! This need to connect with a woman is getting insanely strong. Any woman I speak to, I just can't get them off my mind. It's not sexual at all. I'm also really really craving sex with my husband. Tales of the bisexual continues lol...
