K. I am planning on coming out to a good friend this weekend, (hopefully if travelling weather permits). I recently messed up with her(getting booted out of a night club due to having a little too much to drink which she fought for me to stay(not physically), then paid for a cab to drive us back to her place(which she was struggling to pay rent for at the time) and wanted me to stay the night and explain why I got kicked out. I left her high and dry as the mumbling idiot drunk I was and walked home - Scum, am I not?) Now, I gotta reveal two truths to her with this meeting, I am gay and have a crush on her. (Kinda confusing, right?) I assume she suspects both, but I am not sure what this will do to our friendship because I really have no other friends like her who would bring me into their life like she did for me. Seriously, no one else, I have some friends, but she is Best friend material. and to be clear, after I reveal these to her, I am not expecting anything big to happen between us, I am not hoping for a relationship, this crush really just caught me off guard. It kinda sucks. Now, I am thinking 2 scenarios playing out after she takes the news: 1. (This one I am not, but will force myself to be prepared for - Not proud of admitting this) She will think we should take it easy and not hang out as much due to us knowing what crushes do and how I fear my feelings may get stronger for her over time and eventually end up calling it quits. At that point I will force myself to move on, look forward to finding a new life for my own by working, and basically do what I set out to do out there in the first place, work, settle, and live, not needing anyone else till I meet new people. Or 2. She says, "I FREAKING KNEW IT!" in a playfully teasing manner(like I know how she is) where she thinks of it as not much of a big deal, we move on with our lives and things turn out not as I feared. Why am I posting this? Because I'd like your help in knowing how to put it, because I am not the type of person who says exactly what he wants to say. So any advice on how putting words will help.
Honesty is always the best policy. Just tell her that you're gay, but whether it's due to you guys hanging out a lot, or just that she's really the only person that you can relate with, you have a crush on her. Tell her that it's probably nothing but your not sure, and you don't want to ruin your friendship. Being honest and straight-forward with her is probably the best thing to do. Keep us updated!
Thank you, kind sir. I have an annoying tendency to over think situations, just gotta keep it simple. *sigh* that is a relief.
Game plan? It is approaching and I have nothing fun planned for this talk. Suggestions would be greatly appreciated. :\
