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Dad....

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Gentlady, Jun 5, 2014.

  1. Gentlady

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    I have a difficult relationship to my father. He and mom recently got a divorce, and I live at mom's. He has been trying to fix everything, but I don't want to see him right now, and I can't bear to say it. I've been thinking of going to mu grandparents' place for a week. That way I could show him he means a lot, but he wouldn't be insisting I come to his... Is there any other ways to show him I care, but don't really wanna be at his place??
     
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    I think you should just say him the truth.
    When he loves you he will accept that.
    Maybe I'm wrong or not but to do sth and not to say it directly can be a mistake sometimes.
    It all will be alright!:slight_smile:
     
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    Well, he will accept it I know for sure, but he's not gonna like it. I did it already. And then I thought I was able to be around him again, but then suddenly.... I wasn't. And I can't bear to break him like that AGAIN. I'm his only daughter and I KNOW how much I mean to him(wow, that DOES sound selfish). But he's my FATHER and he means the world to me, too! I just want a break...
     
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    That doesn't sound selfish. It's the truth that children mean a lot to their parents.
    So you say you don't want to be at his place but actually yes?
    Maybe you could talk to your mom about this.
     
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    I don't wanna hurt him, and if I tell him I don't wanna be at his place, it definitely WILL hurt him.
     
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    I don't wanna say you should hurt him. I hate it when people get hurt.
    But what would you think if you would be him (just hypothetical)?
    Wouldn't you wanna know the truth even when it hurts?
    Or think that everything is ok?
    That's the conflict between sweet lie and bad truth.
    I really don't know how I would handle this situation. Sorry!
     
  7. summersmiles

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    It might hurt him at first but if you need time away, well then you just do. I say be honest with him and tell him al this is ruff for you right now and being around him at his place would not be wise for you. Time is everything as they say. Good luck, hun.