How do I find someone to be with?

Not sure if it's different in Canada, but in most countries 18 means you're an adult (no longer a minor). Sure, you might not be allowed to drink until you're 21 over there, but technically you're an adult.
I personally think you'd have a safe bet dating a 24-26 year old, there's not a huge age difference there. It's just that most of those apps (we dare not speak their names) are mainly for hookups... so I get where you're coming from. Some guys on there are just looking for friends though, worth considering.

It sounds like you've considered and/or exhausted pretty much all of the 'meeting guys' resources available to you in your area.
I suppose you might just have to be patient and wait until you meet someone unexpectedly / in the real wider world.

What are your other interests? are you religious/spiritual at all? are you a member of a gym? do you have any gay friends? do you think you could be friends with a "flaming gay"? (they often have "masc" friends).

Peace be with you.

 

What makes you think he's straight? Could you find out for sure?

I guess the problem is that "masc" guys are more gayly invisible until you delve deeper. Perhaps that's the reason that other gay guys don't approach you in the real world that much as well. (I have this problem too)
Can you think of any ways that you could make your orientation and interests more obvious for guys that are hesitant to approach you?

Does your gym have a jukebox? A guy at my gym always puts Kylie, Kelly, Cher, Madonna etc.. on - I think perhaps he's trying to let everyone there know he's gay.
Or does your gym have classes? like yoga or bodypump? Don't ask me why - but they seem to attract more women and gay men than anyone else.

(*hug*)

 

i always crush on your threads oh well i wont argue with you this time you can't help what attracts you
just like he told you masc guys aren't much open about themselves as others well at least what i know and thats why people won't guess they are gay
if you really like him try being his friend and see for yourself you will get some sings if you try to be close friend and act more friendly than others usually do with a friend he will get the point if he was gay
and if he was straight it would be ok too
does he look at you or made any moves or might say hi to you etc.....? if so what are you waiting for !

 

Oddly, I fall into that "too straight appearing to be noticed". I did everything I could to be noticed. And the various websites and such were little or no help except to frustrate me because the people I met weren't the types that I was attracted to. To this day, I've never been approached by another guy in a public place.

Maybe you need a more subtle hint? Something people have to look for an pay attention to notice. I used to have a set of rainbow colored rings on my keyring hoping that would help. Not sure it ever did what I hoped. Perhaps too subtle. As I've gotten older, I've found that eye contact has quite a bit to do with it. If you catch your glances being returned, you are more likely to have found someone at least a bit interested. There is always the "you look like someone I used to know" line as well.. Cheesey, but it helps you stay neutral in case the guy isn't really that receptive..

 

I also live in Alberta I kind of know how you feel. I'm not out to anyone but there is one guy I like that's obviously straight and my friend which would make things very awkward

 

Oh cool, im in Edmonton now

 

For months I've never spotted anyone from Alberta here but there's THREE here now - cool! (&&&) I was born in Manitoba but moved, so Im in Calgary as well and coincidentally I just graduated high school too. Hi-five :smilewave
Anyhow, I'm pretty much planning on waiting for Uni as well because all high school brought me was a 2 year long love-coaster with a straight guy -_-. More options open up at 18 years and you have to take some time to really delve into all of them I guess.

 

Yay for Alberta that's true on it getting easier after 18 I'm assuming. It would be so awkward for my friend if I told him I like him

 

Easier, but still not easy! :eusa_doh: Generally the gay/bi guys that put themselves out there aren't looking for much more than sex and these are the guys I'd imagine you'd find on apps. Real relationship material is tough to come by, sadly. Although Ill gladly be friends with them, I'm not attracted to fem guys either & that's such a problem when it comes to trying to find someone while out and about (gym, mall, theatre, transit, etc) - you see someone that catches your attention but then realize that they're probably straight and it kills motivation to approach him... happens way too often :dry:.

 

Whenever I read these threads I realize how fortunate I was to have spent my main out and single years in the gayborhood. Seriously, the neighborhood I lived in in my twenties you assumed guys were gay until they gave you an indication they weren't. I guess it made things a lot easier...