Ok, not going to make this to long winded but im in a situation that I am really struggling with. I am not out at all, won't be for a while but Im going with the flow on that one! I may be looking into this to much but I need some help I met this guy last year in Novemeber through somewhere I work at. We hardly spoke at this point so didn't think to much of it. But as Decemeber came around last year we began to have more to do with each other and started speaking more often. Around Febuary this year we started speaking on a regular bases and meeting up either just on our own or with a group of other friends. But something just clicked, we started talking on facebook every day. Our conversations would last way into the early hours of the morning then continue the next day and so on... We started to meet up more and more just the two of us. We have become really close friends which is great and its made me very happy. BUT I have also really badly fallen in love with him! He has no idea Im gay, well at least I dont think he does. But I cant help but feel that he may also be gay. Naturally I cant help myself when it comes to flirting with him, I just do it. It also feels like he flirts back to. We tend to end up getting very close to each other and he nevers pulls away when we are in close contact, he often moves closer to me. We speak nearly every day, it will either be via facebook, text or phone call. Our phone calls will always be long, sometimes he just calls me and we will chat about anything! He will always make time for me, when I ask him if he wants to do something he makes the effort to find the time. The way in which we speak to each other is exactly how I would imagine any two poeple in a relationship would talk to each over. People around us have questioned both of us asking if were gay and togther which of course we both just deny. Like I say, he has no idea im gay, I would really like to tell him but im a little scared. The one worry I have is that he is christian, while I know most christians are very accepting of gay people. His parents are not which is where my concern lies. Although im convinced he is gay, if he is he might not say anything due to his parents believes. If I tell him im gay and he doesn't like it my worry is I will lose somebody who has become a very good friend, but also someone who im mad about! Its started to get to me a little because I want to be with him so badly but by the same token I dont want to lose him. Could he be gay? Or am I just getting my hopes up? Thanks
He could be gay, but nothing you have really say here indicates that. He just seems like a good friend to me. Obviously you aren't going to like my answer in that the best way to find out is to come out to him, but since that doesn't seem like an option, maybe start by making some subtle physical contact (lightly touching his arm or back or something) or talking about gay issues with him and see how he handles it. That may give you a better idea since nothing here seems really out of the ordinary for a normal straight guy.
Has he ever mentioned something about a girl or a relationship he had? That's important. How was his life before you? Was he lonely? Was he depressed? Had he good friends? May be he's not gay and found in you the support he needed. On the other hand, being a Christian doesn't mean he's not gay. It just means he's a Christian. How does he reacts when something about the LGBT community is mentioned? Is he supportive or angry or he doesn't say anything about it? You could mention something about a boy you met who flirted with you and see how he reacts. Or you could mention something about an experience you had with a boy if you feel confident.
Thank you for the responces. robclem21: I wish I could come out to him and im very tempted but just cant find it in me to do it yet. I am a very tactile person and find myself always touching him without even noticeing im doing it. He doesnt seem to mind and does it back to me. We've touched on the subject of gay issues before and he is very supportive of them and takes it all very well. I think maybe im looking into it all maybe to much because I like him! Delirious: He has never had a relationship with anybody, very rareley mentions girls, he mentioned one once but that quickly stopped. He has once or twice joked about us both being together, mainly when other people say things. From what I know he has always been gernerally happy in life. If anything he's helped me through tough times. As I said above he seem pretty supportive of the LGBT community. Its a tricky one, not sure I will ever know! (Apologies for any bad spelling!)