Am i in the wrong? - Relationship Advice!

Not sure on the title... best i could do i suppose...

This maybe a tl;dr post but im hoping someone could help me here.

I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, happy as can be and loving life. I came out about 10 months ago and kind of jumped straight into a relationship with him because he seemed perfect.

Like every couple we've had out little tiff's and spat's but have been easily resolved. When there were problems, it was a problem he had with me. I tend to have no problems with him but thats because i'm a very relaxed person and know that everybody is different and i let him do whatever. But it seems very one sided at the mo.

We normally sort out our tiff's very easily in a matter of minutes with a compromise and we're all back to our happy selves. But last nights one was the worst. He got abit pissy with me the night before because i talk to a few gay people on tumblr. I've told him they are just friends, and he has NOTHING to worry about. I have no intention in pursuing them, i just want them as friends because they like nerdy things the same as me. He rang me and said that he's a bit iffy about what i blog on tumblr and stuff and i told him to stop being silly and all was good, we were all fine he said sorry for being silly and everything.

But then it got to all day yesterday at work i was going on tumblr and scrolling down and i was thinking "i wont reblog that because it will upset him" but then i thought, i shouldn't be like that, because its my blog, im not reblogging anything bad like porn or anything. So i decided i should be the one to ring him for the first time with a problem of mine. Thinking it'll all go well like it normally does.

So i rang him and told him that i feel like i kind of have to tip-toe around him sometimes with things on a place where i feel like i can just relax and enjoy stuff harmlessly. But it wasn't as simple as that, it got into a heated discussion where it the reason he doesn't like tumblr was being i post a selfie on there like once a fortnight and he doesn't like the fact i post it on there and get notes. He finds it creepy. And it got to the point where he said "Its either posting selfies or him". I couldn't understand where he was coming from so i asked why he dislikes it and he can't fully explain other than that he finds it creepy that random people see my face and probably jack off to it even though we have no way of telling if that even happens. And i tried to explain to him that its just something i like doing, putting my my face on my own blog and if it gets notes it makes me happy because it shows people think im attractive. I cannot see the harm in it at all.

They aren't revealing selfies, just me smiling at the camera, no whorey pouting or anything or nakedness. Just me in a particular place at the time.

So am i wrong in thinking its harmless or is he a bit controlling?
I feel like he's wanting to change me but not willing to change for me... Its like he puts his own happiness in front of mine without thinking?

 

Thanks. Yeah, i have been talking to my friend about it (who i met on tumblr, been close to him for a while) and me and him both found someone at the same time and i can normally trust his opinion because we've helped each other with advice many times before. He basically said the same thing, that he sounds a bit controlling and i should try and get that to stop asap.

I'm not ready to break up with him at all yet. i still love him to pieces and won't give up until it gets worrying.