I am a really straight seeming (hot) gay guy, and that causes a LOT of girls to like me, and flirt with me constantly. It doesn't help that I am not out, but I do like the attention, and there are three girls in particular, that without me even realizing it, I will flirt back with, but I also consider to be close friends. I've known them all for a while, and it's extremely obvious they all have crushes on me. I have been leading them on for a year, 2 years, and 2 years. I know that there is nothing there (mainly because I'm in love with a dude). They each have been inviting me places, and I even think one time I went on a double date, and it was only me and her (one of the girls) and a couple that we are really close friends with at the beach. I don't know if I should just tell them all that I'm not interested, or just keep flirting. I can't help but feel like if I flirt, then it will lead to something that they might think is there (but isn't). I don't know how to tell them that I don't like them, cause I'm not near ready to tell three more people that I'm gay. (*hug*)
I do not agree with doing this it's wrong to lead people on , you don't know how much you'll hurt the person , what if they fall in love with you ? spare people the heartache and don't do this
Thanks really, I never really thought about that, but how do I tell them I'm not interested, without seeming gay, cause they are all close friends, and I think it will be obvious if I tell three hot girls I'm not interested in them?
You could just tell them you are interested in someone else. That way you aren't lying but not revealing it is a guy.
That's quite alright. I have never even been in a relationship or faced problems like these. Sometimes though it is easier to find solutions to problems when you are looking at it from 3rd person, you know? I hope that works out for you
