I'm confused of why this guy is treating me like this.

I've recently talked to someone that I was going to meet up with, I kept on sending him messages, they weren't that often but he said that I was putting too much pressure on him, I said I would take the night off work to talk to him and he took it the wrong way saying that I was trying to make him responsible for my work place, I don't understand why he says that.

Well, I kept on sending him messages now and then, it wasn't every day but I made sure that I would keep in touch with him, he says I'm putting too much pressure on him still and that I shouldn't text his phone, even though he gave me a number. I text him asking him to reply one night because I had to make a quick decision whether to go out or not, he didn't reply and I decided to go out, he sent a message saying "difficult to text when I'm asleep.".

He said after that not to text him, he said he would talk whenever he went online but now he's just ignoring me, I've seen that he is purposely ignoring my messages so it looks like he hasn't even seen them, when I said "I take it you're not interested." he opens it instantly but still no reply.

Isn't that a bit sensitive? I was looking forward to meeting up with him and then he decides to give me the cold shoulder once I say one thing he doesn't like, I didn't say anything outrageous and tried to be as nice as possible. I said I was excited to talk to him and so was he but he's now ignoring me, I even ask him if he could tell me if he doesn't want to meet and then he doesn't reply still, it makes me think he's purposely trying to upset me, I'm waiting on him and he knows it, it makes me think that because I prioritized friends over him, he's deciding to cold shoulder me.

I don't understand this guy, he's either 1. Cold shouldering me because I prioritized them over him. 2. Feeling scared about meeting up and nervous. 3. Lost interest. 4. Finds me too clingy. 5. Testing me. 6. Pissed off that I gave him a somewhat pressurising message.

I kind of think it's number 1 because he would reply if he wasn't upset about being seen as my second priority, he was looking forward to meeting up and then I went out so he could of felt a bit hurt from that. It made me feel bad when he went out with his friends about 10 minutes after I talked with him. I said I would lay off if he was feeling pressurised but still he didn't reply, people hurt each other when they are hurt themselves, if he wasn't hurt then why can't he just tell me that he has lost interest?

I said I would like to know if and why he's not interested then he doesn't even say anything, purposely ignoring me. It's not down to being busy, it doesn't take that long to reply.

 

It's not a relationship that we are having, I was going to be a friend of his with benefits. He goes out all the time and sometimes just ignored my messages but replied at a later date. This time he has taken longer to reply though, it's been a few weeks since he sent the last message.

 

Hmm, isn't that funny. He actually wants to meet me at a gay club on thursday, he didn't reply for some reason but he still wants to meet. He purposely ignored all my messages but now he wants to meet. I thought maybe he didn't actually want to give up on me, he would of told me from the messages I was sending him.

Well, It seems as if he only wants to talk offline, maybe that's an older man thing.