Boyfriend No Longer Wants to Bottom... :/

My boyfriend and I have been through a lot in six months - he had a minor cheating episode and came forward immediately (it was hard but I forgave him, plus it was only oral... with a supposedly good friend of mine no longer).

Anyways that was over two months ago and the new issue is bottoming. I used to hate being bottom but I've grown accostomed to it, and do it on ocassion now too. However, now my boyfriend will not bottom at all and I can't figure out why. I know about three weeks ago he got hurt a little bit, but now he constantly uses that as an excuse. I've even flat out asked him if he just isn't into doing it anymore and he always replies with how much he loves it, etc. I'd be okay if he'd just fess up to me but this whole thing is getting annoying. The only time he offers to bottom now is when we do cam shows online in front of 500+ people. His "injury" magically disappeared the last two times I've topped him in front of people and magically came back right after.

The only lead I have is that about the same time he stopped bottoming is when we started doing this whole Dad/son roleplay thing (we're 3 years apart but it was entirely his idea). Now it's just head/hjs constantly.

It's to the point now where I'm completely bored with the sex. It's just constant bjs, hjs and some making out. I was considering just flat out denying sex altogether until he will just be honest with me, because at this point I'm really sick of an hour of foreplay with his butt only to hear him say "I'm yours, just don't top me." Last time he said that I just quit and went to bed. I even offered to bottom and while before he ALWAYS took that opportunity, last time he flat out wasn't interested.

I'm getting worried that our sex life is going ka-put. I'm pretty honest/open with him, I just don't know what to do at this point.

Thoughts, anyone?

 

Besides sitting down and saying I think he's flat-out lying to me, I've asked numerous times if he just didn't want to bottom anymore, if anything was going on, etc. I'm at a loss here.

I think unless anyone else here has objections or better ideas, I'm just going to deny all sex until he confronts me on it. I'm tired of it and tired of thinking about it. Already today I can tell he knows somwthing is up... I'm never this quiet.

 

We have 3-wayed before and it was a great experience that brought us closer (long before the whole cheat thing). We both top in that situation. I only wanted to deny sex to entice him to come to me for once with what's going on. If I can get him to bring it up for once instead of it always being me, I thought that might help?

 

my problem with that is I'm always the one bringing it up, and that hasn't worked up until now. (I'm also slightly intoxicated too so don't sweat it lol). I figured getting him to bring it up would be better for once.

 

Well after being pretty non-affectionate for just one evening, he knew something was up pretty much immediately and we had a big talk. He said that when he bottomed on cam both times he had bleeding issues after, and admitted that the camming thing is what turned him on enough to risk getting hurt again.

I told him I trusted his judgement and that I'd still love and want to be with him even if his colon exploded and he could never bottom again (lol) but I also said I wanted to do 3-ways until he thinks he can do it again. I think that by itself made him reevaluate himself because I sensed jealousy immediately, but he agreed to have a 3rd too.

We'll see what happens... things are better. We also agreed to bury the whole cheat thing because honestly all it does is upsets both of us when it's brought up. We worked through it and it's time to put it in storage and move on.

 

we had one once before with a mutual friend that went really well, and he picked him out. of course we always agree on the person along some line lol