My dad makes a lot of homophobic comments and it's irritating me

My dad does this also. My mom too. They'll see someone gay on tv or someone who 'seems' gay and start making all kinds of nasty comments. I'm not out to them either but sometimes it feels like they deliberately say these things in front of me because they suspect I'm gay and are subtly trying to warn me about ever coming out.

I've tried confronting them about the comments but it's like talking to a wall and just makes them more annoyed when they see me sticking up for someone gay. When the topic comes up nowadays all I can really do is bite my tongue and leave the room.

 

My dad used to be like this, until i told him i was gay, now he tends to avoid the topic.
But tbf, im really not a sensitive person at all and if he wanted to say something slightly homophobic then i honestly don't think it would bother me because i know he doesn't personally mean it against me.

 

Yeah this is what my mum was like. It got to the point it was making me so hurt/angry that I just snapped and came out to her. Ever since she's not done it so it went well for me thankfully

 

I'm in the same boat. My brother's bosses at work are gay. He told my mom this. One day, he told her he would hang out with them and coworkers at a bar. My mom told my brother to stay with his coworkers and not be alone with his bosses because they're weird and perverted.

I was so annoyed that she made a blanket statement like that. Creepiness isn't unique to gay people. However, standing up for his bosses would make her so suspicious about my sexuality. I'd rather keep peace in the household, so I kept my mouth shut.

There are other things that I do to avoid conflict, such as reluctantly attending church with them. My rule of thumb is "their house, their rules, my house, my rules". That's why I'm dying to leave the nest once I save up enough money.