Male coworker is making me uncomfortable at work .

Kill him?

I would tell your boss he is doing all this stuff and making you uncomfortable, then he can talk to him and put a stop to it.

 

Wow, that guy seems awful. Like the epitome of entitled male crossed with can't take a hint.
Is your manager decent? You could tell him "Bill" is making you feel very uncomfortable?

 

when he says you look lovely today, put on ur stupidest face and (you may have to spend time practicing how to mock his voice) in a mock voice of his back say "YOU LOOK LOVELY TODAY TOO" but make sure it is hyper sarcastic, and make sure to look really stupid when doing it, in a way that is very obvious you are sick of his shit and are making fun of him

do this for basically everything he says

if he throws a little baby hissy fit and gets angry at you that's great, don't ever say hi to him or anything, i dealt with guys like this a lot and basically they will ignore you or learn to hate you once they figure out they can't date you

this sounds like a grocery store so i am assuming you have a manager that wont give a shit. your mileage may vary, if your manager actually gives a shit about bill's ISSUES bring it up with them obviously in a more polite way then what i type, professional workplace is always the first step. like they are probably used to co-workers not getting along and have a method of handling it. my advice is how you handle things when you are an idiot, like me, with bad supervisors, like mine!

 

Running away is not a solution because, unfortunately, you find these kind of people everywhere. You just need to learn how to deal with them. It's good to be nice to people but don't be afraid to be assertive and sarcastic when it's necessary, like in this case.
First of all, I wouldn't thank his compliments because some people may take being polite for being interested. Is Bob your boss? I'd tell him that your work efficiency is higher when working by yourself than with Bill who distracts you by wanting to talk every 5 minutes so you'd appreciate if you could work alone from now on.

 

What a narcissist! Doesn't this fall under harassment? Report the bastard.

 

He in all honesty sounds like he has some social problems. Like aspergers or something there.

 

You can try being 'actually' a little rude by stop saying Hi and Hellos from now on. and if possible try to talk it out with him.. make him understand politely how you dont like being bothered every time and you like to work alone. Try to restrict your conversation to only professional and no nonsense. if he still doesnt change.. then there definitely are other 'rude' ways of making someone understand at work.

 

Something bad? You should really report the behaviour to the manager verbally, or even in writing, so it's on record. You have the right to feel safe and not be harassed at work.

 

wow that sucks, would you be able to switch jobs before it gets out of hand

 

damn, then you really should leave, that environment is not safe for you and sign up for that new job

 

Do you think you could manage to catch him next time just as he's about to say something else unwelcome and tell him something like the following?

"Bill, I'm going to have to ask you to leave me alone and give me some space. I'm involved with someone and I don't want this to become unpleasant. I'd appreciate it if our interactions remain work-related only. For my sake and yours. Thank you."

And then walk away so he can't say anything else to you. Also, do not respond to anything he says which is not work related. You only need to do your job and interact on a professional level. Nothing else is required - from him or the company.

 

I think that you should try to talk to him first. Just say that you need your own space and time to yourself. If that doesn't happen, then take it to a higher authority, such as a supervisor or a boss.

 

If he won't leave you alone, go up to the person as high up the chain as you can and report him there. I read that you said he was reported before and that didn't help, but is there anyone higher than your boss that you can report this behavior to? If there is, really consider doing that. He already has no respect for your boundaries, telling him that you're with someone probably won't fix this. It can be helpful to set up boundaries a lot of times, but honestly if it's gotten to this point, I can't imagine that he'll suddenly start being a respectful and reasonable person now.

Go higher. This is harassment and you deserve better treatment at work than this garbage.

 

Ok. Amend my suggested statement to say "As I've told you before..."

Is this a part-time or full-time job? I hope it's part-time and you can fit in some job searching to find something else. In the meantime, I very much doubt he can convince people to hate you unless they're a bunch of brainless morons who can't decide for themselves and if they are, well, be sure in the fact that you are made of higher quality stuff and will be fine without them. Anyone who wants to be friendly with you will be all the more welcome.

Just thought of something. Is there someone, impartial, who you could get to witness this exchange? Might help if you do have to take it up the ladder. Even someone you don't really know.

 

It sounds like he's a very difficult person. You don't owe this guy anything and how very rude for him to expect you to react with the way he wants you to. Like what others have suggested, is there someone who has higher position than your boss like for say, Human Resource?