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Family and friends believe gay stereotypes and talks about them to me a lot...

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by PrinceFabulous, Jul 15, 2014.

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  1. PrinceFabulous

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    So my mother believes gay stereotypes. She thinks all/most gay men are effeminate, or at least they're at a point "You can tell they're gay" with no doubt. I tried to tell her that most gays are what people call "straight acting". She then tells me "Stereotypes aren't going to go away. They're there for a reason. Don't fight them." It really makes me angry that I have to put up with stereotypes a lot, honestly. I'm a person, not a stereotype. I'm just like anyone else, just because I'm gay doesn't mean I'm suddenly a living, breathing, stereotype, and she, nor anyone else, seems to understand... It's caused a few fights with her, and even a few friends, I just don't know what to do... I'm just trying to stop people from stereotyping me. Should I just give in to them and take it...?
     
    #1 PrinceFabulous, Jul 15, 2014
  2. IG88

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    You should definitely be yourself. It's true that stereotypes didn't crop out of nowhere for particular groups, but it's the few obnoxious/noisy/rememberable ones that get stuck in people's minds. And then those people see the stereotypical people in public or on tv and that idea gets reinforced.

    You shouldn't act in a particular way that's not true to yourself. And there are plenty of gay people who you never would have guessed that they were gay. They're harder to spot from a crowd to prove that theory though, that's the nature of stereotypes.
     
    #2 IG88, Jul 15, 2014
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    Be a living example of a gay man who does not fit the stereotype. Be yourself and let them see that being gay does not change who a person is nor dominate their personality.
     
    #3 Byron, Jul 15, 2014
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