1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

How to increase a woman's confidence in a relationship

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by fluffybunnies, Jul 22, 2014.

Thread Tools

Thread Tools

  1. fluffybunnies

    fluffybunnies
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 21, 2014
    Messages:
    8
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    England
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I'm in a relationship with a woman who is a bit messed up and lacking in confidence from her experiences. I might be the newbie with women but I feel like I've got to go some way to help her with her issues. She's been in relationships where she's had to keep the peace and almost sacrifice part of herself to maintain them. Last relationship was with a someone who told her that "you're the boy", and any compliment I try to give her (and I'm not so great with words) she throws back - for example I could say that "you have a nice bottom" - "no, YOU have a nice bottom". We're been together just over a year now. Baby steps I think, she struggled getting naked at first but hid it - I'm sick of her throwing compliments back because I'm younger and weigh less. Like I care, totally want her :slight_smile:

    Any suggestions appreciated!
     
    #1 fluffybunnies, Jul 22, 2014
  2. Really

    Really
    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 11, 2014
    Messages:
    2,579
    Likes Received:
    753
    Location:
    BC
    "you have a nice bottom" - "no, YOU have a nice bottom"
    "But I can't see mine so I'm just going to enjoy yours, ok?" Then kiss before she can say anything else.
     
    #2 Really, Jul 22, 2014
  3. QueerQueen

    QueerQueen
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Mar 24, 2013
    Messages:
    495
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Ontario, Canada
    The girl I like is kind of like this, insecure. I think all you can do is show her and reassure her how beautiful you think she is. Take her out on dates, be affectionate, buy her flowers, kiss her when she least expects it, look into her eyes when you compliment her. Just tell her how you really feel about her and when she throws a comment back at you say it again. I think when it comes to this though she has to learn to accept herself for who she is and love herself for it, just be there for her.
     
    #3 QueerQueen, Jul 22, 2014
  4. Sabot Kitty

    Sabot Kitty
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 20, 2014
    Messages:
    0
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Indiana
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    My girlfriend and I do the whole "you're so [nice quality]" "nu u!" rather frequently, it's pretty common in my experience. Nonetheless, I think her self-esteem will only continue to improve as long as you're both together. c:
     
    #4 Sabot Kitty, Jul 22, 2014
  5. Tetra

    Tetra
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Mar 10, 2014
    Messages:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Canada
    Damn. Smooth. I'll remember this for the future.
     
    #5 Tetra, Jul 22, 2014
  6. tulipinacup

    tulipinacup
    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 15, 2014
    Messages:
    571
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Philippines
    I think it doesn't matter if you compliment her everyday but it's how you really mean it. When you think she looks good in that dress, tell her but not only that but I think she would really appreciate it why she looked good in the dress.

    I've struggled with my self-esteem (and I still am) when I was with my ex-boyfriend but there was a time when he asked me which part of my body I was so insecure about and he kissed every area of it which was so sweet him and it did help a bit with my confidence though I think your girlfriend is probably not specifically insecure with her body but with how she is in a relationship due to past experiences?
     
    #6 tulipinacup, Jul 22, 2014
(You must log in or sign up to post here.)