My friend outed me... What should I do?

A while back, one of my close friends from junior high was going through a rough point in her life and had an issue with cutting, and we ended up getting into a conversation about problems that we had to deal with at home or in school. We were talking about eating disorders and body image and I just blurted out that I was gay. She just hugged me and told me nothing would change between us.

I went out with her and one of her girlfriends recently, only to find out that she had told her therapist as well as some of her high school friends that I was gay. I tried to act cool about it and told her it was no big deal. But it hurt me, not because she told people but that she did so unnecessarily and behind my back without my permission. Honestly, it's not a big deal, but I don't like feeling betrayed, you know? I'm probably just being paranoid, but I want to be the one telling people I'm gay, not have someone do it for me, if that makes any sense.

 

Well I never explicitly told her to keep it a secret, so I guess I'm partially to blame.

Auren, I guess I never really considered that. I had told about three or four friends by the time I came out to her, so while I was not "out" I wasn't really "in" at that point either. And while I'm fine with people knowing, I'm not okay with people going around and announcing my sexuality unless I give them the permission to. I feel like since it's something I personally am dealing with, I should be the one telling people about it. At this point I guess I just want to know why she decided to tell them, especially how I fit in with the whole therapist thing.

That one guy, I'll definitely ask who she told, but I would assume that they're all her friends from her school that I've never met. So unfortunately, I don't know how I'll be able to come out to them :lol: