Just ended a friendship

You did the right thing, he sounds like a total jerk. Nobody has the right to tell you to change yourself in any way, gay or straight. Put yourself out there and find true friends who like you for being you.

 

You should feel good about yourself. You did the right thing! Sounds like your more of a man than he will ever be. You deserve new friends and I believe you will find them. I know right now you feel really down. But its time now to start a new beginning for yourself, start over with new friends. Let your self have this time to reflect and feel what your feeling, thats what you need to do just dont stay to yourself too long. Slowly pick yourself back up. Get a hold of a friend and go do something.... anything just go hang out. Sounds like that "friend" is the one who needs to change.

 

You did the right thing, and often doing the right thing is the most painful thing to do...which is why relatively few people ever do the right thing.

You should be proud of yourself for getting rid of a negative situation. Even though it may have been awkward, and it may have been done in anger, which is never the best way to do these things, you took care of yourself and defended your boundaries.

What you are feeling is grief, you are mourning a long friendship, and it is good to feel this, and to know that you need to take the time to feel this loss.

We are here for you, let us know how you are doing...

 

You did the right thing by not compromising who you are to satisfy those around you. If they don't accept you, then that is their problem and not yours.

 

I'm very sorry to hear that. I know it must have been hard to end a relationship but you need to understand that if you spend time arguing, fighting, disagreeing with a friend then I don't think it's not a healthy relationship so you did the right thing. Bandage hurts like hell once you take it off but as time passes by, it gradually heals the wound.

 

I'm sorry that you had to do this. This is never an easy thing to do. Friends are supposed to be there to support you and lift you up, and this person was clearly not going to do that. Right now, you are grieving the loss of your friend. With time, this will get easier, it just sadly takes some time.

 

I am so so sorry you had to do that. But, in hindsight, it was for the best, and you made the right decision. When I feel depressed, I usually go to the park and climb a tree, before listening to really depressing songs and eating a lot of chocolate. You can also talk it over with some of your other friends. It is no good to keep emotions bottled up inside.

~silva
"Never love someone who treats you lie ordinary." ~Oscar Wilde.

 

I know how you feel, I'm usually the "happy" one around my friends too. But the reality is that we're all human and sometimes we just feel sad. Nevertheless, you should make sure to put yourself out there and don't isolate yourself, as you will make it harder.

 

i would advice staying away from him. you did the right thing. also, if he doesn't already doesn't know you're gay (as hearing it from your own words), i would tell him so if he tries to contact you. tell him that you're gay and you can't be around another person with such hatred towards gay people.

also, keep in mind that a huge percent of homophobic people are actually gay themselves. i say this from experience. my best friend was a homophobe.. when he used to see a feminine gay walking by he would say "look at that fag". i used to get upset inside but i swallowed it because i kind of knew deep down he might of been gay. a could years later i came out to him as bi. to be honest, i was scared i might lose him but it was a chance i had to take because i couldn't be around anyone who hated gay people, even though at the time i didn't consider myself as 100% gay.

when i told him he gave me a weird look, when we had the conversation, i could see the glare in his eyes that he probably was gay or bi himself. he didn't say much but everything after that seem to still be cool between us. i think it might of been awkward for him because inside of him he was fighting his own demons and hiding who he really is. no one would ever suspect he was gay, but since i known him for a while i knew something was different about him.

a couple years later my suspicion turned out to be true. despite him always being around girls and having a gf, he told me he was gay.

that said, i would continue keeping your distance from this friend. i can almost guarantee if he is a true friend he will call you.

 

You did the right thing you dont need someone like that in your life.