••••••••••••••••I had a thing with this girl , we actually dated but it kinda lost it's name so we just continued life using the term "it's just a thing"it went on for 2 years but started to get more intense this year . I wanted it to be more than just a thing ,so did she , i didn't wanna rush her into telling people she was bisexual.which she is, So I waited for her to Decide when she wanted to take the next step forward.me and her ended up getting in a little fight and then she got a bf and she broke my heart because she loved me and I felt the same but after awhile she said she didn't love me anymore and that she loves her bf now ..and so recently she told me that she still loves Me and that she never stopped loving me. And that she lied about it because she didn't think we were " getting anywhere" which I was waiting for her to decide when to move on forward because I didn't wanna force her to come out in public and to her family and school.and stuff. Now I really want her back .(I only came out to my friends so far btw)And so I said I'll change that .I'll come out I'll tell everyone I'll take you to beaches for cute walks and everywhere I'll do sweet things for you and I told her stuff like that and so for a good 2 1/2 weeks I tried SOO sooo hard but it wouldn't work.now she hates Me right now because me and her got into a fight and I don't even know what to do now .. I love her so much , I'd fix everything ,it would be perfect and I'd come out to everyone ,so would she and everything .and it would be perfect but she won't take me back no matter how hard I try..she also stubborn and had depression and anxiety. She's mad at me right now and I don't know what to do , I tryed getting over her for a good 16 weeks but I can't get her off my mind no matter how hard I try ..I need some advice and help please :/
Well, there are many things here that need to be addressed. First of all, she cannot force you to come out when you're not ready. If she loves you, she would understand your issues. Explain it to her if you have to. And you should decide for yourself whether or not you want to come out. But it shouldn't be simply for her. You should do it for your own self and keep in mind that she may or may not be there after you come out. So, decide wisely. I don't understand the love and hate aspect of your relationship. If you love her, make that as clear as possible to her. Tell her that you're sorry for everything in the past and you want to start afresh. Lay out the changes/ rules. If she says yes, then great. But if she doesn't acknowledge that, then my dear friend you need to learn to move on. The only way to forget someone is to find someone else to fill that gap in your heart. Go out and meet new people if it doesn't last between the two of you. Good luck.
The only person I would want other wise is my bestfriends gf :/ and I can't get over her you don't understand how badly I love her .. And I've said I wNt a fresh stRt to her before I've stated things if change and do too
Honey, you're not the only one who has ever fallen in love. Please understand that most of us have been there too. In fact, believe it or not, I am still in love with someone whom I've not seen for the past 5 years. Yeah, I know it can be hard, love can't be decided, it just happens .And once it happens, it can't be stopped. Sometimes love dissolves, sometimes it turns into a relationship, and sometimes it stays forever. Please don't torture yourself over someone who isn't interested nor doing anything proactive about it. Please try to focus on yourself, your health, set some goals, focus on some hobbies, etc. But don't waste your feelings and time over someone else.
