I hope this doesn't come off as ignorant or stereotypical, but out of LGBT, I've only met very few bisexuals. I've been talking with this guy who identifies as bisexual, he is 17, while I am gay, 18. We hit it off pretty well and feel comfortable around each other, but there's two problems. This guy feels completely nervous dating a guy because he has never did it before-neither have I. After some questions, he accepts to start dating, but still seems very nervous. Are there any tips to dating a bisexual or someone like him? It was obvious I had feelings for him and seems we both want it to work. Another problem is he's not sure what turns him on about guys, but he likes them and likes me. I've tried asking him, but he's clueless? Any advice? :help:
Don't have any tips for dating a bisexual. We're just like anyone else. :icon_wink It seems he may still just be a little confused with his sexuality. He'll come around.
I think this is quite explanatory (I think?) I think that the best thing to do is expect him to be switching on and off, don't expect him to always want sex or to be with you all the time, as he may be preferring girls at that moment (sorry if I offend anyone, I'm not 100% on how being Bi works). If he is into pornography, then you may catch him watching Straight or even lesbian porn (probably straight, but anyone can enjoy straight porn (unless vagina or breasts are a big turn off) I'd say, if he's not in the mood to kiss or anything, don't be surprised, that's all the advice I can give
I can only speak for myself but... Bisexuality is all the time. It doesn't mean that sometimes you're attracted to girls and sometimes you're attracted to boys. It means you're always attracted to girls and boys. In a monogamous relationship (which I assume this is) they are with you. Bisexuality is not a license to cheat. He's probably just nervous and inexperienced. My girlfriend is my first and I tend to be awkward around her because I don't know how to act. I have set expectations for opposite-sex relationships that I don't feel I can apply to my same-sex ones and so that leaves me with a feeling of being lost. Communication is very important. Take things slow. Don't do anything that either of you isn't comfortable with. Try out different things to find out what you both like.
As was said above, this seems more like sexual fluidity, not bisexuality. Other than that, I can't give much advice that hasn't already been said.
I'd day just give him some time. You said he'd never dated a guy before? Well I'd be nervous too. If he really does like you then he'll calm down in time. Try not to rush anything, and just let him figure things out.
I think that there isn't anything different to do when dating a bisexual, they are just like anybody else and all the usual relationship rules and regulations apply. However when dating someone who's nervous and has never dated a guy before, there is something to keep in mind, and that is you'll need to wait for them to be ready for sex, and don't pressure them.
Yeah you guys are both young. So don't rush anything. But it sounds like you guys really both want to be together which is great! Bisexuals are perfectly capable of being in monogamous relationships if they want to. Communicate with each other and be patient. Everything should be fine! Good luck!
I agree with bicomplicated. Don't rush into this, and don't jump in with the expectation of having sex. See where it goes. As for dating, don't treat him differently just because he also likes girls. He might like different things, but that's really personal, and if he likes you the way you are, don't change how you act just to impress him. Act like you would dating anyone else.
