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Being invited to a party , by a homophobic freind

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by rayan, Aug 15, 2014.

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  1. rayan

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    It's 6 pm here and i'm invited to a birthday party at 11 pm .
    I was surprised when i saw his name on my screen calling me . When i answered he was friendly and kind as he used to be in the past .He asked me if i have plans for tonight and where if i can come to our friend's B-day party . We haven't spoken to each other for about 4 months now . He was one of best friends before i came out . I used to have a crush on him but i'm so over him now. We were roommates for about 4 years until he asked me to move out after coming out. After that we gradually stopped talking to each other .
    I was thinking to say no right away but instead i said i'll see if i can manage to come . It's weird that he is calling all of a sudden asking me to come to a party . So what do you think guys , should i go for it ?! And if so , do i go alone or to bring a friend with me would be better ?!
     
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    Whether you go to it is up to you, since you know the guy and what he'd do. But if you do decide to go, I'd recommend bringing a friend just in case.
     
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    This could mean four things:
    a.) He wants to make up for his past actions
    b.) He wants to make out with you
    c.) He doesn't want the party to be a ''one-man party''
    d.) He wants to beat you up, perhaps even kill you and is thus trying to lure you into a trap.

    a.) and d.) are the likely two situations you may be facing, with d.) occurring more often than you might think.
     
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    I think bringing a company is a good idea too .

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    Hah. D sounds relieving , beating and killing me ! ...... But i will keep that in mind :icon_sad:
     
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    Well you don't live in Russia, so it's not likely to happen :rofl:
    If you do plan on going, I suggest taking someone with you. Preferably an Icelandic giant.
     
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    Weird. He could be feeling bad and figures this would be a way to make amends or hang out with you again. I second bringing a friend, don't want to get cornered in case he is the same homophobic person who drove you away to begin with.
     
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    Well, i hope for the best . I'm going with 2 of my best friends :slight_smile: .
     
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    Did you ask him why he invited you? It would help to know what he thinks about you before you arrive. Bringing a friend sounds like a good idea.
     
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    I mean, I just think that you should enjoy the opportunity that he's given to you, which is this party. Otherwise, on down the road, you might regret not going to it. Also, if you were to come out to him, hypothetically speaking here, then do you think that he'd discard your friendship just like that? Is being gay really that much of an issue for him? He obviously values your friendship since he invited you. Keep that in mind. You're still the same person, gay or not, and he might realize that if you did come out to him.
     
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    Good luck, mate.
     
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    Here i am .... still alive without bruises :slight_smile:
    It seems he wanted to apologize and to get back our friendship . He even asked me to move back with him but i refused kindly .
    Time to go back to study for the exam now :/
     
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