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Did i do something wrong?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by dembendlledl4li, Aug 17, 2014.

  1. dembendlledl4li

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    Hello, i'm new here! :slight_smile:

    2 weeks ago I was going out with my friend and slept at his afterwards.
    I hadn't seen him in a long time. We both found new friends and he's now hanging out with my little brother and his friends. My lil brother sees him more than me. After we drove back from the club i told him that i don't like the fact that he talks and sees my brother more often than me, he asked why so i told him because of his drug use and i kinda called him a junky. He said that my brother is a cool dude and that I needed to learn to talk to him, and he was shocked that i thought that way about him (my friend). On the way to his he explained that he's going to stop when school begins, but I know that's a lie because he said it several times before in the past 2 years. So we got home and got to sleep.
    I couldn't really sleep because i planned to come out to him but i was really scared and irritated about that what happened before. So the morning after i got to his room to say it but i was really scared so i just said that i'm going home. I left the room and was really pissed that i didn't dare to say it. So i got back in again and told him I was gay. He laughed and thought that i was joking. So i said just bye and went home.

    Later on I text him, saying that it was not a joke. He said that he doesn't care and asked things like "when did you notice and how old were you" etc. I told him since i was 12 and noticed through porn. He didn't answer after that and a couple of days later i asked if he wanted to hang out, he first said yes but later cancelled. Then on a wednesday i asked if he wanted to hang out thursday, and he said ok again. Then he cancelled again and told me that he has a birthday on friday so he didn't know when he had time. I told him to text me sometime. That weekend was a public party in his town. So on friday I went to work and he was there with a friend buying alcohol and party stuff. I went up to them and said hi and stuff. Everything seemed fine. Later i realized that he didn't even go to a birthday, so i texted him birthday my ass. Then he texted me saying I shouldn't be so paranoid and that his nephew is celebrating his birthday. I didn't believe it and said thats very nice that you are doing the groceries for him. It went quiet and after 5 minutes he just said that he's going to throw a party before the public party. I didn't response to that and was very disappointed of him. Later at that public party I saw one of his friends and his eyes were like crazy, i assumed he did drugs. Later i saw my brother, luckily sober, and he told me that he went to his party. Short after that I was dancing with another mate and then i saw "my friend". I walked up to him to ask why he lied to me. But he was talking to someone and then made an angry face to me and kinda made that sign that i had to go away. I was like ufck dat and partied on. (I think he was on xtc, that would explain why he didn't wanted to talk to me.

    I thought that he would text me and explained his behavior but i still got nothing. Should I wait more? I feel like it's wrong to text him. I feel really shit right now because he was kinda my only true friend and i want to be a part of his life again.

    Can somebody tell me what to do and what not?

    Thanks for reading:thumbsup:
     
  2. Hyrule Wayfarer

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    He sounds like a jacka** to me. Before you came out to him did he always arrange plans and then cancel them at the last minute? If he didnt maybe he feels uncomfortable hanging out with you now because you came out to him. If he did always bail I wouldn't read to much into it.

    I think if you text him you will seem kind of desperate and needy. Especially as he keeps bailing on plans with you.
     
  3. hip2hop

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    I agree with Hyrule Wayfarer. I would have him text you instead of you texting him, that way he is accountable for setting up a meet/hang out time. In my experience, when someone else sets up those times they are less likely to break them because really what is their excuse for getting out of it…..they are the ones who set it up :slight_smile:

    Also how many times in the past has he left you out of his life and came back? Perhaps this is his pattern. If it bothers you, perhaps, you should talk to him about it and tell him how that makes you feel.