I think I have co-dependency issues. I always talking to my doctor about this because I just know how I feel some times doesn't seem right. Or the things I do such as being closed off with others has always got to me. There are many other things I do such as feel unsure of if I should feel a specific way. Example, I texted someone asking if it was okay I missed them. Or I usually become rather distant when it comes to intimacy or physical closeness. In a way I feel ashamed for having feelings sometimes. Its kind of like I need someones permission to say its okay to be upset or something. Or if I have feelings for someone I feel weird because I know what they will want if I ever tried to be with them. Example, I have a crush and she has mentioned kissing me-scares the hell out of me. Lets just say I want to, but I am so scared I will do something wrong. I hear people say how much she cares about me and that part scares me as well.I guess its one extra thing I need to work on. I also like to help others which I guess helps me feel like I am worth something in someone's life. I just really like the idea of making someones day especially a person I care for. I guess some back story. My childhood I spent more time making sure my mom was okay especially since my father was an alcoholic and abusive-haven't seen him for 10 plus years now. Most of my childhood I also spent on caring for my sister who was sick. Right now I feel weird that I am facing this, but trying to face it head on so I can try and do better. I did like what my family doctor said and that was while I may screw up by maybe being distant with others; its likely not who I am, but rather the fear I have inside of me. She said I need to work on feeling and trusting myself which I hope I can start to do better with. Is anyone else facing anything similar or would like to tell their story?
My story is similar to yours... in large parts... Yes but it can be learned to be balanced... finding a balance between one's own needs and other's needs. Maybe especially women have this issues from time to time... it can be learned and balanced. Maybe a bit a relaxed and laid.back attitude helps... Communicating it I think is often important.. also in a balanced way, in my opinion... friendly but decisive, if necessary... This is a imO great quote from another thread: Yes. I think this inner feeling of what is right for one is important. But being aware, it can be trained.
