Hi guys/gals, I have an interesting topic, I was discussing with one of my coworkers today a subject that I was curious what others think (not relevant to my life at this time): Would you be hurt / offended if you found out that your boyfriend or girlfriend was looking at pictures of their ex naked and gaining sexual satisfaction from there (masturbation) ? A co worker says they found their BF doing that and was a few times and he caught him in the act. Never told him. Would you consider that to be cheating? Hurtful? How bad?
The act itself, I would not consider hurtful. But the fact that they thought it was necessary to hide it from me, I feel is hurtful. But I understand.
Personally I would be really hurt by that, because it's like they prefer the old lover sexually and still get aroused by them. That would feel like cheating even if it technically isn't. Definitely a relationship deal breaker.
Well, I avoid fantasizing about my exes (ugh) but just because I'm in a relationship doesn't mean I don't think about or get aroused by other people. I just don't act on it. Of course, if the relationship was fairly new, it would concern me.
