HS Crush?

Hi all! So I am a Senior in HS and am still in the closet to the student body, even though I'm sure there are some people that suspect. Anyway, we just started up at school for the year and in my lunch I was fixated on this guy. He showed some signs of being gay, even if they are just stereotypes. For example, he sits at a lunch table with all other girls, his mannerisms, and being friends with a group of girls that all treat him as if they are dating but they are not. Plus, he just gives off that vibe. Idk. But, he is a grade lower than me and the only time I have a class with him is in lunch. How would you guys approach this situation. One, on actually meeting him/ becoming friends with him. Two, on discovering if he is indeed gay and then proceeding further. We do have some mutual friends. I just friended him on FB and Instagram and the following night he followed me on twitter, which shows that he at least knows that I exist. Sorry for bothering you guys with this petty stuff, but I don't know how I should go this.

 

That's awesome! Thanks for responding. About the FB message, I don't know if I wanna go that root, as it seems too direct and since I've never talked to him before, he could be like wtf this guy is so weird. I know, my observations are so stereotypical, but I've come to realize that we have to be in this situation. I also talked to my other friend, who knows I'm gay, and she said she thinks he is as well, without knowing I was interested in him. I think I might try to stand next to him in the lunch line, hopefully with someone we both know, try to initiate a conversation and go from there. I don't wanna weird him out. Do you think that is a good idea?

---------- Post added 6th Sep 2014 at 05:59 PM ----------

Also, when he added me on twitter after i friended him on other social media accounts, it was at around midnight when he followed me. I feel like its a good sign that he sought out my profile at that time of night, or it means nothing lol

 

Lol we should! Anyway, both parts are tricky because I'm not good friends with anyone in that group because they are all juniors. Also, none of them know I'm gay as I'm only out to a very very select few in my school. Not even my close friends know. It's kinda the norm at my school that even if you are blatantly gay, which I do not think I am, you keep it to yourself and get by until graduation. I did stalk his FB profile, lol, and his interest says women, but so does mine so that doesn't mean anything. It's very tricky and I don't even know how I would go about finding out if he's gay as it wasn't til the last half of my junior year that I was even comfortable telling my mother let alone someone I just met at the beginning of the year. I assume he will be on a similar track, but who knows? Your tips were very helpful, though. I will absolutely keep you updated. I don't know why but he is all I can think about and I've never even met him lol. This has never happened to me before

 

We seem pretty similar. I ran cross-country too, though stopped this year because I wanted to enjoy my senior year, lol (practices were brutal and I wasn't enjoying it anymore). I was gonna go back to soccer, which I used to play, but decided against it. Unfortunately, I come to find out that he is on the soccer team, so its safe to say I'm really regretting it. And that's awesome about your friend on the XC team. There's no hurt in confessing your feelings to him, especially if he already knows your bi. I always feel like whenever you have that feeling that you need to get something off your chest, that is the correct time to do it.

 

Unfortunately, since he is a junior I don't know his friends well and am not out to them. I am only out to a select few friends and family and the friends that I am out to are seniors, who don't know him that well. My one friend does think he is gay though. She says he gives off that vibe lol

---------- Post added 7th Sep 2014 at 12:30 PM ----------

That's true about the games as I have played with a lot of people on the team in the past. And it could be a great way to initiate a conversation as well. Most people at my school wear their uniform to school for games so if he does, I could ask what position he plays and then go from there.

 

I played center-back. And yes I do, hopefully the opportunity arises tomorrow. I'll keep you guys posted!

 

Day one of trying to meet this kid did not go well. Of course I walk into the lunch room and there he is standing in line by himself. I went up and stood behind him (he was facing forward) only to realize that I packed my lunch and it was foolish to be standing in line when I wasn't even buying anything lol. So I sat down and periodically went up to get napkins and stuff in the hopes that he would be there too. Idk its only the fourth day of school and we are bound to talk at some point.

 

No he didn't see me bc he was facing forwards lol but I know I then got out of line looked over to the register to see what was up front (they sell snacks at the front of the line), then I went to the snack bar. I was only there for like 2 seconds and it wasn;t like I had my brown bag in hand lol. Nevertheless, yes it was a little embarrassing and I'm just rationalizing.

---------- Post added 8th Sep 2014 at 04:27 PM ----------

On the bright side, he liked my instagram post yesterday! I'm aware that means nothing lol

 

Maybe haha. I will try again tomorrow hopefully it goes well!

 

I really really appreciate that SomeNights and resu! I guess I didn't really look at it that way. I don't know I just feel like I should wait a little bit before doing that and try to get to know him in person first idk though. Anyone else have thoughts? Having said that, I talked to him today in the lunch line. I was in line, he then came up in line behind me. We went through the line and towards the end i turned to him and said "(insert name) right?" and he said yes and then I said something about him playing on the soccer team and about how I was bummed bc I used to play and all the kids on my old team were playing this year. He said "Oh really, why did you stop?" I told him that I decided to do cross-country instead. At that point, I had already payed for my food and just left (it would have been creepy to wait for him to pay), but I realized I never even introduced myself. Overall, the convo was full of nervous energy (on both parts I felt), but I was happy I did it.

---------- Post added 9th Sep 2014 at 11:10 AM ----------

Also, resu how did it work out for you when you did that? Was the senior that you called up out to the school/ did you have info prior to doing it?
edit: nvm I just read the blog on your page and WOW you have some major guts. I could never do that. Hypothetically, I send him a FB message. What does it say? Also, would that make any interaction we might have in person awkward?