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Did I just get asked out on a date? Is it just coffee?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Tayb24, Sep 12, 2014.

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  1. Tayb24

    Tayb24
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    So, recently I met this really super cute chick in one of my classes. I mentioned how I was in the Gender and Sexuality Alliance to her, so I'm assuming she knows I'm not straight. Anyway, I happened to get on a bus she was on after school and we ended up talking for a bit and she suggested that we got out for a drink sometime. Gave her my number (this was yesterday) and she ended up texting me about this weekend asking what I was up to. I told her I was free Sunday and she asked me if I wanted to grab coffee with her, to which I obviously replied yes.

    So, I've never been asked out before and I'm not even sure if it is a date or anything, I mean it could just be coffee, which would be fine because she seems like a super cool person to hang out with anyway. I don't even know if she likes women or not. She kinda looks like she does. She has a short pixie haircut and likes to wear muscle shirts sometimes, so I mean, kinda sets my gaydar off a bit.

    I really want to believe it is a date but like I said, I've never been asked out before So I really don't know. Can anyone give me any insight, or advice?
     
    #1 Tayb24, Sep 12, 2014
  2. RainbowMan

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    Here's my advice (as someone that's never been on a date - look at my age for whether or not you take it :grin:)

    She's asking you out for coffee - whether this is a precursor to something more all depends on how the two of you hit it off there. All dating relationships start with something innocuous like coffee - no commitment, just coffee. What it leads to from there is up to the two of you, and it could quite possibly be something more substantial. So I'd treat it like a date without the pressure - show up looking nice and whatnot, but just sort of take it casually and let it go where the conversation takes you!

    I'm sure you'll be fine!
     
    #2 RainbowMan, Sep 12, 2014
  3. Yosia

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    It sounds like what i call a before-date, which is like not a date but could lead to a date very shortly. Try your best anyway! Not all relationships come straight from 'real dates' ^.^
     
    #3 Yosia, Sep 13, 2014
  4. Quem

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    Yep, this is somehow a date. :icon_bigg It's indeed more a before-date (like Sinon said), but she wants to know you so who knows what happens.. Good luck!
     
    #4 Quem, Sep 13, 2014
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