I have this friend (who's straight) who I really like (in a romantic way) and have done for about a year now. He knows that I'm gay, but doesn't know that I like him. We are really close and we used to do things like hug during films, once we held hands during a film and he got me a rose for valentines. He does the whole hugging during films with a lot of his friends, but not the holding hands etc. We'd always do our homework together and he'd be kind of flirty with me (leaning on me etc.) During the summer I got slightly drunk and texted him that I loved him - which he took as me saying I loved him as a friend, so he still doesn't know I really like him. We didn't see each other over summer and then I changed schools so we barely every get to see each other, which sucks. I don't know what to do. I always find myself looking for a reason to text him or call him, even if it's about something really unimportant because I miss him so much. Should I tell him that I like him and l risk alienating him? I feel like this might be the only way to get over him. Does anyone think that he might like me in a romantic way? How else could I get over him? It's making me feel so depressed, which really annoys me because I shouldn't feel this way just because my feelings aren't reciprocated
I was in a similar situation until just a few days ago. Think about it - did you feel so down about the situation when you were still close? If not, you could just get in touch and continue being friends until you're really ready to say something. If you've always felt like this, yeah, you should probably say something and hope for the best. Your right, that's the best way to "get over him" if you can't do so any other way.
Hi Unless he's really oblivious I'd say there's a good chance he already knows or suspects you have feelings for him. I'm in a similar situation actually, although we've been apart longer, it hurts a ton but the pain does lessen over time. I didn't have the courage to tell my crush but based on what you've said I think he would react fine which could lead to you either getting over him faster or there's a slim chance he'll reciprocate your feelings. Either way I think it's healthier to get an answer instead of dealing with the regret and over-analyzing
