Just broke up... too soon to date?

Well, although there isn't really a set time-frame or a convention for when you should start dating again, my question to you is: do you feel ready for another commitment? I think you should take things slow and get to know this person before making any rash commitments.

There is one thing you need to remember with all future relationships: rebound relationships never last

 

I think we could give you advice or our thoughts, but it is really your call.. The only thing I would be worried about would be "rebounding", but if you are going into it with the right reasons and the right attitude, maybe let this guy know you just got out of a relationship and you really do like him, but would like to maybe take things slowly to see where they go..

If you feel like you are moving on and this guy seems more your type, I think you might regret it later on if you don't take the chance. Just be aware of the reasons why you wanna begin dating again and do it for the right reasons.. Not the wrong reasons.. Don't do it cause you wanna get back at your ex or cause you feel lonely.. Do it cause spending time with him and being with him genuinely makes you happy. Don't worry about what others think, just go with your gut and your heart and don't let you think others might think deter you from pursuing something with this guy.

 

I think if you do feel as though you are using him a a rebound, then to me it is quite clear you aren't ready to get into another relationship. I think just treat him as a friend for now and slowly get to know each other and things may just develop naturally from there but I don't think it is wise to force any kind of feelings for someone when you are still getting over your ex. You need time to grieve and move on. For some people it happens quickly but for others, it does take a while.

I think it is natural to like feeling wanted and feeling like you are getting attention especially when you might have felt you weren't getting that in your last relationship, it's also good you are aware of the fact you aren't fully sure of if your feelings are quite genuine for him yet. It sounds like you know what is at risk and what could potentially happen so it is good you recognize that. I think just go slow, get to know each other first and then once you have spent more time with each other, you can each get a better understanding of where you want to from there.

 

I think you have answered your own question. I agree with what Blossom85 said, If this guy is willing to just be friends with you (or maybe a hook up if both of you are fine with that) then you start from that. In my own experience, usually talking it out to your close friends is very helpful. It's cliche but friends do stick with you no matter what.

 

Personally I feel that rebound love can never be true love, because all you're really doing is transferring your feelings from your ex onto the rebound, instead of developing them from scratch.

At the end of the day it's your choice, I think you just need to be careful because if the new guy doesn't work out or ends badly, could you cope with a double heartbreak? (You said you still have feelings for your ex.)

Be honest and open, like everyone above me has said, try and take it slow.

Good luck

 

I think I am going to yo against the grain here, your prior relationship was going on for on,y a month as you stated. Your questioning if it's ok to start seing someone else already which suggests your open to doing so.

While your last relationship was your first, it ended quickly suggesting you and or he or both realized in short order that it was not right.

Based on these circumstances, seems to me you should go for it, see others, take things as they come. Your only at the beginning of your journey, explore and do what you feel comfortable with.