seeing my boyfriend for the first time?

I think if they are thinking about it, then just let them think and process for a while. I think at times you need to be careful and tread softly with your parents. They want what is best for you and I think they might come to that conclusion that letting you go would be in your best interest but you need to give them time as well.

I think all you can do is talk to them which you have done, and let them talk to each other, think it through and then make their decision. If they say no, then maybe then you can dig a little deeper and explain more reasons as to why it is something you would really love to do. I just think don't pressure them when they are still making their mind up as it might get them offside.

 

It may seem a bit awkward, but I think if you would have your mom meet your boyfriend over Skype or something and get to talk to him and see how nice and sweet he is, she may start to open up to the idea of letting you go meet him if they go with you. You can also have her sit down and talk to his mother as well, and you could do this as many times needed for her to feel comfortable. If you get on it early and keep selling her the idea (but don't beg for it) that it would be awesome to go see him and his family, she may cave in and say yes. You could try the same with your dad, unless you'd think he'd react more negatively to it.

Hope I helped.

 

Yeah I'd get your mom to talk to him and his mom over skype or maybe see if his mom will give you her number and let your mom give her a call. Just think of it the same way as if you were going over to a friends house.

 

Well I have to say I am hoping that they say yes ! Please let us know what happens I wish you the best of luck!

 

That sounds like a good idea, if you turn it into a Christmas present.. You could mention that you don't want anything else except that which shows them how much you do care for him. I do hope it all goes well for you.

 

This is so sweet -- I hope your parents let you meet!

For what it's worth, I don't think there's anything you can say to convince them at this point. Just try to stay on their good side and continue to demonstrate how important your relationship with this boy is to you. I think if they get to the point where they talk to your boyfriend's mom they'll agree to make it happen.

Try not to pressure them too much; I'm sure it's a scary proposition for your parents to allow their young son to travel relatively far away to visit someone he's in an intimate relationship with but has only met online. The fact that they're considering it shows they place a great deal of faith in you so try to be patient and understanding of their hesitation.

Good luck! I hope this works out for you and we get to read about a fantastic first meeting.

 

From a slightly selfish person... Don't play the Christmas present card until you have to... But good luck. I hope this works out for you

 

That's soo sweet. All I want for Christmas... Is you..

 

Your mom isn't wrong to be concerned. I don't think the Christmas present idea will be very effective.
The issue isn't that they're allowing you to do something/giving you permission to do something; the issue is your safety, and your parents aren't going to trade your safety for Christmas presents.

My boyfriend and I have been together long-distance since February 2012. We met IRL for the first time in April 2014, and my mom still accompanied me when I went to meet him. I contacted my boyfriend's mom and talked over visiting and we worked out that it'd be best if our parents met and got on the same page.
A little lame? Yes, but it paved the road for a future of trusting, parent-less visits that both families can feel comfortable with. My boyfriend and I are now free to travel alone to see each other, and my parents welcome him in our house.

If all else fails, talk to your parents about having one of them accompany you to visit him for the first time.
At the very least, no matter what, your parents and your boyfriend's parents should talk (email, Facebook, phone, whatever) about visiting, share concerns, and establish the "ground rules".

Good luck.

 

Hope it goes well, let us know. My mum was horrified at the thought of me having an online relationship when I was 18. Then again I wasn't out so I told a few fibs.

 

I just now caught your post here, and I don't have much to add except that I'll be keeping good thoughts for you!

 

So, any update on this?

 

I think a letter is probably a good idea in this case because you can clearly express your reasons for wanting this so badly without being talked over. I'm assuming this is not the way you usually communicate with your parents so hopefully the different medium helps underline how important this is to you.

I hope it turns out for the best!