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My cousin wants to come out for me?!

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Vaettfang, Oct 23, 2014.

  1. Vaettfang

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    She wants to tell my parents but I'm not ready! She's hard to reason with. What do I do?!
     
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    Dang. Not cool at all. Only you should come out for you when you're ready. I would die if anyone came out for me.
     
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    No no no. Not cool. That's a snake move. That should be your decision on when you think it's the right time.

    Let her know that it's your life, and that you'll do whatever you need to do whenever you are ready.

    Yeah, tell her that; you aren't ready. And while she might be ready to tell the whole world know about you, you aren't, so make that very clear to her.
     
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    Be very direct and clear with her about the consequences of her breaking your trust. This is not something she should play around with.
     
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    Let her know that you are doing this for YOU. I don't think she understands that coming out is something that is serious and there are a lot of consequences when not doing the right time (just as you not being ready for it). Tell her how would it feel for her if she's on your shoes.
     
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    Thanks guys. She agreed not to. She's kind of having mood swings (for reasons I won't mention) so I'm understanding of it. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: