So this past week has been difficult. Me & my brother are both gay which is great and fine. He's not ok with us both being gay because he thinks it will make it harder on him coming out. Im ready to come out and have already been coming out to all my friends. I knew he wasn't ok with it but i couldn't wait for him so i went ahead and came out to our family. Anyway now he's really mad at me, not talking to me much and calling me "selfish"... does that make me selfish?? He'd already given me so much meanness and argument over it that i went ahead as i felt it was time for me.
You need to do what's right for you in the time it's right for you. I can understand your brother being frustrated, but he needs to also do so in the time that works for him. Not sure there is a rule book that says siblings need to come out at the same time.
I'm in a similar situation. My older brother came out, and I was beginning to question my own sexuality a year before. It's made my potential coming out harder, as I am afraid of the similar knee jerk reactions my mom had. However I wouldn't call you selfish. You're doing what's rigjt for you when it's right for you to do it. He'll just have to do what Is best for him.
No, you aren't being selfish at all.. I think you both need to come out whenever you are ready to, you are obviously ready to now whilst he isn't.. So you shouldn't feel bad or selfish cause you are in a better place with your sexuality right now. I think your brother just needs to cool off and think about it logically.
