I really like a guy but he's straight and I want to tell him! NEED ADVICE!!

To me, it sounds like you already know what to do. That sounds like the perfect things to say.

Good luck!

 

Ditto, seems like your plan makes all the sense in the world. Go for it!

 

Tell him, and hopefully he'll be a nice guy who won't criticize you! There are jerks like that, and I hate them! Even if somebody likes you and you don't like them, you don't laugh in their face! I have never been rejected, but I've rejected others. I hate it when people are jerks about it. Several people like that hurt my friends... wow, I totally went off topic. He seems nice, so I'd go for it. Hopefully you two can be friends if nothing else!

 

Hi,

I'm going to disagree with what others have posted here. I don't think that you should say this to him. If you want to come out to him, that's totally fine, and I hope that he is supportive. However, I don't think you should make it known that you like him especially when you know that he has a girlfriend.

There are plenty of guys that I am attracted to that I know for a fact are gay, but I don't tell them that I like them if I know that they are dating someone. It comes across as rude. I've had people hit on me that said the line "we can still be friends" after I said I wasn't interested. The problem is that since they have admitted to liking me, I don't feel like I can ever truly be just friends with them because I feel like they'll always be feeling something more for me or I'd just be stringing them along allowing them to cling to this false sense of hope for a relationship to develop.

I'm not trying to make you feel down, but I honestly cannot see any possible positive outcome to the situation you're describing. I would just try to get to know him as a friend IF you feel like you can do so without torturing yourself. When you're friends, you can come out to him if you wish, and he will know where your attraction lies. If he happens to break up with his girlfriend, then it would be appropriate to admit that you like him.

However, I wouldn't necessarily suggest doing this. I think it would almost be like torturing yourself. I know this sounds cliche, but there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

 

Having been in a very similar situation myself, I can honestly say that it depends entirely on the person at hand and how well you guys know one another. I just recently told my friend that I have a crush on him, even though I knew he had a girlfriend. He took it quite well, and said he wasn't really surprised and had even kind of suspected. We've also known each other for five years and are already very close friends. Had we not been as close or known one another as well as we do, his reaction could have been very different. From what you've said above, it sounds like you guys don't know each other that well; for that reason, I would say you probably shouldn't tell him just yet. Get to know him better before you drop that bombshell, that way he has time to get to know you and not just think you're either a) a creep or b) only interested in sleeping with him (I don't like it, but that preconception does sadly exist).

That's just my advice. What's right for me may be and likely is quite different than what's right for you. If you want to chat more, feel free to drop me a wall post or PM anytime.