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So I came out to a girl who had a crush on me...

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by MtnFr3sh, Nov 3, 2014.

  1. MtnFr3sh

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    Okay, so I'm in theatre, and we were getting ready for one of our shows, she's more of the person who works behind the scenes and even though I've only known her a short time I really consider her a friend because we get along so well, and she really reminds me of this girl who was a senior when I was a freshman.

    So anyway, the topic in the dressing rooms got into sexuality, and she openly said something along the lines of "I like girls and guys, but, I only like guys emotionally."
    And that sort of clicked in my head, she's really nice and I consider her a friend. So, a few minutes later, I pulled her aside and told her, and told her why. Because she admitted.

    Then, her expression sort of changed, It was dark in the hallway so I couldn't really tell. She wasn't really surprised, but kinda disapointed. She said she should have seen it coming because apparently I act different, but not completely stereotypical. Then, she said it was really awkward, and starting acting funny. I know that look because I've seen it in the mirror tons of times, and I knew, so I was waiting on her and she was like "Well... Um... what was the soda you're drinking? Was it crush?" And I kinda chuckled then started to feel really bad, she told me not to change how I look at her. But I kinda couldn't help it. I mean, even though I haven't known her that long, I consider her an awesome friend, mostly because her outward personality is just like my inward one, sort of dark and morbid, but funny and sweet.

    And I can't help but sort of look at things differently because it seems things are a little awkward now. I mean, I (along with almost every other guy in our theatre group) loves making little sexual jokes, so, in class we were doing this exercise on tone, and things, and I thought of a way to make the lines really funny. They were something along the lines of "Can we just forget about that tonight?" A said I thought of it, and she wanted to know, So I said the line exactly how I was thinking, and she got red and scooted out of the circle because it made her feel awkward because I think she still likes me....

    Help... Even though I haven't known her long, she's an awesome person, and because I personalities are similar, she's a really good friend, and I don't want things to be awkward between us... She's the type that says everything's fine and can put on one hell of a good fake smile, so it's difficult to tell, even though I'm capable of doing the same thing.
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    It'll take some time to get over, but she'll more than likely be able to get over it and can go back to being friends.
     
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    Yes, give her some space so she can gather her thoughts. If she's a true friend, she'll come around. It's a lot better knowing someone can't love you than won't love you...