Should you tell Your Straight Crush that you like them?

Whether or not to tell your straight crush you like them is a common questioned asked on this forum and others. So I decided to share my personal story to help those who need the confidence to tell their crush that they love them. I was once in your position, searching forums and advice columns for an answer on whether or not I should tell my straight friend that I liked them.

Let me start by setting the stage. I worked at this store a few months before Nick even started working there. One day, Nick started on the job, and he eagerly caught my eye, he was good looking, and around the same age as me, and we were now working in the same department.

He and I became instant friends, it was literally instant. We just got along so well. We often were scheduled the same shifts, so we spent a lot of time joking around and getting to know each other.

After about 2 months, I began to realize that I was developing feelings for Nick that quickly became intense, and for a small amount of time I wondered if Nick felt the same way. But I later figured out that he was straight about our conversations about girls.

However, the feelings I had for him didn't go away. I found it harder and harder to keep my crush on him a secret. I was torturing myself over it. He was all that I could think about at work, school, and home.

It got to the point that every time I saw him at work, I just wanted to explain everything right there and then, but I was able to keep my composure.

Eventually, I came out to him, and he was accepting. I knew I was going to tell him how I felt, but I felt that I should do it one step at a time.

A few more months passed, and I finally gathered the courage to tell him how I felt.
We met in the parking lot after work one late night, and I have already told him that I needed to talk to him about something.

So, it was time. "So what do you need to talk to me about?" he asked.
"Well..." I paused. "This is going to sound a little crazy so please let me explain everything."

"Okay" he said.

"The truth is that I have had this massive crush on you for a long time, and I know that you don't feel the same way because you can't. But I needed to tell you or I will never get over it, and more importantly, I want you to know how much you mean to me. Our jobs sucks, and sometimes it is just awful, but none of that matters when I get to work with you. You make all the stresses of the job go away. That's all."

He was shocked, but he was cool with it. He told me that we will always be friends and that nothing was going to change between us.

Yeah, things were weird for about a month, but they were weird because I was making them weird. But now, we're back to "normal."

I learned that when you love someone, you should just tell them, because until you tell them, you're never going to have the closure you need to move on. You're always going to ask yourself these "what if?" questions. What if they feel the same way? What if something happens to me and them and they never know how much I cared about them? Etc. But once you get closure, you can move on, and that's what happened for me.

It's amazing that for 11 months, I kept my crush on him a secret, and I tortured myself because of it. That's 11 months that I could have been happy instead of secretly being in love with someone I know that couldn't love me back.

It took me 11 months to get the courage to tell him how I felt, and I don't regret that night in the parking lot one bit. I am so much happier now then I was when I was secretly in love with him. And after telling him, I moved on very quickly.

I can guarantee that if I never told him how I felt, I would still be in love with him now. But now, all I see him as is my coworker and my friend.

So if you're wondering if you should tell your friend or not, just tell them. You never know until you say something. And if they don't feel the same way, they will at least know how much you care about them, and you will probably be closer in the end. And you'll finally have closure, and then you can move on, and then find someone who can love you as much as you will love them. Don't give up on love.

 

I just want to mention that if anyone has any questions about my experience or needs any advice base off what they read, feel free to pm me.

 

I'm glad that my story helped you. That's why I wanted to share it.