Loss of best friend made me start self-harming

That friend is a flipping douche bag. What the heck? Who would do that to someone else? It must be like emotionaly torture. Even though I suspect your friend is questioning himself, he's going about it the wrong way. The reason he shut you out may be because his possible attraction to you.

Hun, please don't self-harm. Use a rubber band to snap yourself hard or even hold several icecubes in your hands till they melt. Maybe the urge to cut will have gone. Stop now before you become dependant on it. I scratched myself with a ruler, but even that became addicting. There are other ways to cope with your pain.

 

Wilzyax, I want to start by telling you that as I read you story I am crying again because I too just lost my best friend and its over something stupid that I should have said years ago . I am sorry that he is doing this to you ,I am in love with my best friend and have been basically since we meet in the 4th grade . He just recently told me that he knew this for a long time and he had feelings for me to but he had to distanced him self from me because he need to move on . I only wish I would have done something sooner . I think that maybe he is scared to acept that he might be gay or bi what ever it is and that he has feelings for you and does not know how to deal with them . I know this maybe hard for you but try and give him a little space and who knows maybe he will come around and start talking to you again . Please don 't cut your self or harm your self in any way . I did try to end it all more than one time and I can tell you that I now see that is not the right thing to do it is the cowards way out of the problem and I am ashamed of my self for trying to hurt my self !! I do wish you would stop hurting your self instead talk to us here that is what we are here for to help you . I am here if you want to talk please message me anytime OK . I wish you all the luck and peace in the world

 

You're already on the right track right now: you're talking about it. Keep doing that! Keep posting new threads on here and asking for advice on the forums. Better yet, talk to someone trustworthy in person, but if you don't have that, know that there are many many supportive people here.

 

Instead of feeling self pity, start getting angry at this idiot, who hurt you like this. He doesn't deserve your attention, you... doing this to yourself, because of him. He is the one who should suffer, not you. Think about him, think how miserable his life might be right now. Find peace of mind, in knowing that you now know this person's true "colors" and can move forward, towards better friendships.

 

I have had a lot of best friends walk out on me and sometimes i have felt that low i have wanted to start self-harming, but then i realized that doing it would not bring them back. I am sure there are other people who care for you in your life. I have had 3 people who are very close to me self harm and one on the edge of suicide, it doesn't feel good for the people around/close to you either. Just think of that before you do it next time, that it doesn't only effect you xxx