Rumours and confusion- help needed :/

I was in your exact situation when I was in high school. I proved the rumor correct......

 

It's funny, I only just remembered this situation while reading your post. I must have blocked it out.
It might not be advice, but rather just a similar experience.

I think I was about 14 or 15 years old and in High School.
I grew up in the country, so went camping with friends just about every weekend during the summer. I used to get naked with a male friend a lot, played strip poker, and went skinny dipping etc.. (teenage hormones and all) and one night we went camping and ended up masturbating together (just watching each other).
The week after that at school, he told everyone on the school bus about what happened and a rumour about me being gay began. I can't remember how he avoided becoming labeled as well, but he did.

Anyway...
I denied it constantly - to myself and everyone else. My friends didn't believe the rumours either (bless them).
In the state of denial that I was in at that time - if it wasn't for my friends, the rest of high school would have been hell. Keep in mind, this was in the 90s.

If I was to do it again, especially knowing what I know now and how much more accepting people are in general now days, I would have just said "Yeah, I'm gay, so what, get over it".

It's good that you've got your friend as support

Thanks for reading.
Sorry that it won't be much help.

 

It's many years since I was at school, but like you and Mangotree and USxUK, I was the subject of rumours and gossip about my sexuality, BUT (and this is important) everybody else was the subject of rumours and gossip about one thing or another too. It wasn't just me, even though it felt like it sometimes.

There were rumours about pregnancy, sex, drinking, drugs.... the list of silly gossip was endless and nobody was totally immune. Without exception, every student in my year had their week of shame (even though most of it was bull). The more you react to it the more credibility you give it. If you can, try to ignore it.

 

4 words of advice: DON'T CHASE STRAIGHT GIRLS
not trying to be abrasive or insensitive, but it'll save you the heartbreak.

on another note, who gives a fuck what people say? laugh in their face when they bring it up to you. that should nip it in the ass.

 

Have you ever talked with your friend about those rumors ? she might say that it's disgusting or w/e in public but you might hear a different opinion when you ask her yourself....
Also people want you to feel ashamed of those rumors because that motivates them to continue bullying you. Try to play it cool, and reply back with a rumor that's going on about them