I look at my mom's text messages.

do you like people looking at your text messages? fuck yes it's an invasion of privacy, stop doing that shit. nobody wants their private conversations snooped through. if she thought it was your business - she would have shown you.

 

It's a pretty serious breach of privacy. As far as your parent's sex life, that's really not something you should be prying in to. It's easy to judge them for what they do, but you aren't them and you may not know everything they have been through or the reasons that they do what they do. Don't throw stones at glass houses.

 

of course i have problems. sometimes i drink a few too many beers, sometimes i'm insensitive and i could list 99 more things... but digging through people's text messages? no, i keep my nose in my own business.

you're 13 years old, you shouldn't be concerned with your parents personal business. including but not limited to - sex life and text messages.

 

correct.

but you posted this thread and specifically asked if looking at your mother's text messages was an invasion of privacy. which i told you that it was. it's incredible invasive and sneaky.

case closed.

 

well if that's the kind of person that you wish to be then that's your choice. next time, don't ask questions if you can't handle an honest answer.

 

Agreed. Its an invasion of privacy.

 

It is a total invasion of privacy. As DrinkBudweiser said as well, do you like that being done to you? I mean seriously, how would you feel if your mom was looking through your texts because she's "suspicious of you", like you said you feel about your parents. It's fine to not trust your parents, you don't have to trust them, but you cannot go invading other people's privacy like that! It doesn't matter how much you don't trust them, it's not okay.

And btw, you did ask "Is it an invasion of her privacy?" If you don't want to hear a response, don't ask a question. It's totally okay to want to get things off your chest, but there is really no reason to be getting pissy with people for answering your question...

 

It is a invasion of privacy yes. And I would be extremely annoyed if I found out someone had invaded my privacy like that, I suggest not doing it again. Even though she is your mom, she still has a personal life which, like anyone, she is not obliged to tell you.

Another thing to think about: Do you tell your mom everything and let her snoop through your phone, or would you be very upset if she did?

 

No matter how tempting it may seem, you should never read another persons text messages. Turn the question around and ask yourself how you would feel if someone read your text messages? I don't know about you, but I would be furious.

I've heard of people doing this before with the defence "well if they have nothing to hide, it shouldn't be a problem". Well, that's not a defence and it is a problem. When you read someone elses messages you are demonstrating a lack of trust and respect for them.

Sorry, but I agree with the consensus of opinion on this.

 

What it means is that it's not a good idea to judge people or blame them when you are doing something that is ethically troublesome yourself. Your family may not be perfect, but doing stuff like this can be like a house of cards. It can have consequences beyond simple poking around. It may seem innocent enough from your perspective but you really don't know what type of damage you can do when poking into people's private lives. Especially the people who feed you and put a roof over your head.

 

Good. You should try to keep it that way. :3

 

I think you should tell your mum you've been reading her texts. And apologise.

It would be the mature, grown up thing to do.