My mother is not being as accepting as I would like her to be.

Hi again, support forum! I'm Ke. It's sure been a while since I last used this, but I have something to talk about. My mother is a lovely lady, working a job from 6 in the morning until half past 2 in the afternoon to make enough money for us to live. I have recently got a job, so hopefully she can lighten her load.

What I wish to bring up is that yesterday I was having a discussion with a friend. She and another friend have been dating on and off for a while now. Once again, they are off. She made the comment that "until someone will put their all into a relationship, I will avoid relationships at all costs." I told my friend that, though this is a good idea, you cannot escape this by their activity in the relationship. People's feelings towards others change. It happened with me and a girlfriend back when I was identifying to all as a boy. I loved her, but eventually she left me; I let it go on the same principle of changing feelings that I have just mentioned.

Explaining this conversation to Mother as we chatted was going all fine. "Clearly you just did not love [my girlfriend]." I explained that I truly did, and that people need to understand that romantic relationships cannot exist one sided, and should simply be left. She then said: "Well you aren't a girl, and girls tend to do this whole...", continuing on to explain how girls react after a breakup. I ignored this for two reasons. Someone's gender does not define how they react in a relationship, and time and time again have I told and reminded mother that I am a girl. I simply said "thank you Mother" and left the kitchen wherein we spoke.

Mother was shocked by the reaction and said "what I mean is... well... you aren't really a girl because you have male hormones flowing through your body!" I then said to Mother that "one's sex does not define one's gender", and that "a girl can be a male, a female, or intersex." I stressed this last point to show her that people aren't always simply born male and female, but will most commonly been given the gender of a girl or a boy upon birth. Mother, though, simply said "yes it does" in a snide tone before I left the conversation.

What can I say to my mother to explain to her that I am a girl regardless of my sex and regardless of whether I do more than HRT or not. Please, I would appreciate your help!

Love always, Ke.