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Waiting for something that may never happen~

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by GewfyGlenn, Dec 1, 2014.

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  1. GewfyGlenn

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    So...I have been talking to a guy for...several months now (we have met in person a few times).

    We met on a social networking app for gay men, and it started as just essentially a "What's up" kind of conversation, but surprisingly turned into many sessions of long talking or texting. I did bring up the idea of dating, and he suggested we wait until I move (about a month from now) and we are a bit closer in distance (170 miles to 50 miles) and we can see what happens then.

    I have definitely made it clear that I am interested in getting to know him better, and he did agree, but I am still way insecure about it...we are very different in some respects...
    He has been out for 10+ years, I have been out for...3 months.
    I am a virgin, and am all kinds of nervous about that...I also don't necessarily want to hookup unless I am sure that it is the guy that I will wake up to the rest of my life...or at least I am sure I won't regret losing my virginity to.

    My biggest worry, is that maybe the ladder worry will cause me to miss my shot once I do move, and I could end up missing out on a REALLY great guy. Like, he's interesting, level-headed, fun...undeniably sexy, has a great smile (my biggest turn-on)...

    I seriously doubt I would regret it if we did indeed "go all the way"...but I am not 100% sure...how do I get passed that.? Blah I am so far inside my head with all this crap.:confused:
     
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    Yolo
     
    #2 mangotree, Dec 1, 2014
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    If you have been getting to know him and have agreed to meet, have you thought about being upfront with your concerns? If he responds favorably, you know a relationship is worth pursuing further. If his response is negative or one in which he wants to push you to do something your not comfortable with, then that tells a lot about his intentions and isn't it best to know that up front rather than wasting a lot of time?
     
    #3 OnTheHighway, Dec 1, 2014
  4. Macolm

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    Keep in mind that meeting once doesn't mean you have to jump into bed with him -
    I've done that a lot, expected that a lot, and have been with guys who were thinking that way...it messes things up.

    If he's really as great as he seems, I'm sure meeting will go just fine :slight_smile:
     
    #4 Macolm, Dec 3, 2014
  5. GewfyGlenn

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    @Macolm - oh I know, I am just worried about what will happen when it DOES come to that

    Like I said we have met before, and we actually spent the day together today, and my mindset is definitely changed. This guy is just plain fucking awesome, and irregardless of a relationship happening or not, we have a pretty legit friendship growing. Ride it out and see where it goes.
     
    #5 GewfyGlenn, Dec 6, 2014
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