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Might my friend be gay?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by AdviceonSexuali, Dec 16, 2014.

  1. AdviceonSexuali

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    I am gay male in college (I am about to graduate in a year) and I live with my best friend in an apartment who identifies as a straight male. He has never had any romantic relationships since he hasn't tried but he is pretty attractive and a really nice guy.

    I also have never had any relationships since I am not out (except to him) and I haven't really tried (I have a lot of other problems in life that I need to deal with but that's an aside).

    I have always thought of my best friend as simply a really good friend, maybe almost a brother, since I just assumed he was straight. That being said, I actually do think we would make a great couple since we have so much in common and have very similar principles, sexuality aside.

    Now, I never entertained any of this since I always assumed that he straight but I am thinking that he might be gay, bisexual or somewhat curious. I say this since I accidentally stumbled upon his browsing history (shared computer / internet) a few times and sometimes (not very often), it contains homosexual male porn but more often than not it contains a lot fem-dom porn / BDSM (forced cum-eating, anal play, strap-on, denial etc.) and recently he was on an understanding sexuality blog.

    I know none of the directly implies his sexuality (fem-dom / being submissive doesn't necessarily imply that one is bi, but I think it might mean he may be more open-minded or curious). I really want to see what I can do or ask to determine if he is bi-curious or bisexual indirectly.

    I only say this since I would probably say that I would love to be in a relationship with him and I never cared until now since I always just assumed he was straight. What I am saying is that since I think we would be such a good couple (mutually), I don't want to miss out on simply because he wasn't out or comfortable with himself. I obviously can't make him come out (if he even is bi-curious), much less pursue any relationship, but I want to somehow indirectly try to make sure that I don't lose this opportunity.

    I hope what I am asking makes sense.
     
  2. EpicConfusion

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    I would suggest making it clear that you will accept him no matter what his sexuality is. You could ask him if he's ever been interested in guys and see what he says.