My mom is pregnant.

well, this is her reality just like your reality is that you are a gay male. it really won't be that long until you're off on your own. are you out to your parents? what bothers you so much about another sibling?

 

If I were her, I would be fine with you being gay, but I would be very pissed that you were snooping through my messages, and I would change my password.

 

If you don't want her invading in your life, being controlling about your life decisions, and snooping through your messages, then don't do it to her.

 

yeah, 4 and 5 year olds do have a tendency to act childish, no question about that. but honestly, there isn't anything that you can do. this is someting between your parents. being an only child isn't always so easy. there are lots of only children who wish they had siblings. at least that takes some of the heat off of you, because they can't be spending all of their attention on you. believe me, being a teenager, it's better to be able to fly under the radar sometimes. and to get treated as a teenager. when there are no younger siblings, parents sometimes continue to treat you like a five year old, and that gets real old. I guess the biggest question in why not come out to your parents? it would certainly create a new dynamic in the house :lol:

 

Well, we're never satisfied with what we have.
I on the other hand would like to have siblings and not to be the only child because there'd be chance that at least one of them might live up to my parents' dream of their child getting married, having grandchildren, etc. (There's no gay marriage in my country and my gender identity wouldn't allow me to have a child on my own.)

 

but Bohemia is part of the Czech Republic. they've had legal registered domestic partnerships for same sex couples since 2006, with most of the same rights as marriage. are you saying that adoption is not legal there? :confused2:

 

I was upset as well when my Mum told me I was going to have another sibling, my 4th sibling when I was 11. But as time goes on you love them even when they are not born. I also felt really bad because my sister was born at 26 weeks.

Yeah, you might be mad and upset. But it will hopefully pass and you shouldn't take it out on your family and sibling. It is not your choice to have siblings or not, it is your mothers. So there is nothing you can do but get over it. Having a baby sibling is also good because you can help by just holding them and then you don't get told to do any jobs, XD or you can suck up to your Mum by helping her and eventually the baby.

 

Yeah, believe me buddy. I had 4 younger sisters. And my reaction, every time my mom announced she was pregnant again would be something like this- "WHAT? NO! AGAIN???"

But it's not the end of the world and chances are, if you're anything like me, you one day won't be able to fathom what life would be like without them.

I'm not personally a huge fan of kids myself but I adore my sisters. Unfortunately, my boyfriend and I CAN naturally have kids and that's a power, like Rogue and her power stealing death touches, we don't necessarily want to take advantage of.

 

4 and 5 are young ages. They are still going to be childish at that age. In her situation, she's possibly concerned about another miscarriage, and that may be a reason she didn't tell you. I'm an older sister, and while I understand being frustrated with your siblings, I know that I regret having been meaner when I was younger. Thankfully I've been able to make up for it.

Just realize that it probably isn't easy on your mom either, especially having to consider that she's got other children to take care of, and respect the fact that she hasn't told you for a reason.

 

Just accept that good things will come of this not saying that inconveniences won't arise from this as well, of course they will, but the birth of your new sibling will start a series of events that will at many points bring goodness to you. This person that your mom is bringing into the world has a purpose, just like you do, just like everyone does for that matter. You'll recognize the significance of this new person in your life some day.

 

My mother had two kids from her second marriage, two girls to add to the sister I had from the first marriage. We are nine and 11 years apart.

I fell in love with them the moment they were born, it was excellent training to be a dad (a bit too much actually as I was frequently relied upon to take care of them, cloth diapers and all!).

I just had lunch with the two of them, and marvelled at the sight of all three of us, already parents ourselves, already grown-up, enjoying grown up conversations and still loving each other as they day they were born...

 

Yep, no gay adoption here.
Even if I had a partner who'd have her own child I wouldn't be able to adopt that child. :icon_sad:

 

perhaps in vitro would be an option?

 

That is what I really hope my sisters and I will be like, we are 10 and 11 years apart. Mum also used cloth diapers for my siblings.

 

Do you mean AI? It wouldn't be an option either because only a heterosexual couple can have it.

 

Adoption is not legally possible here in the Czech Republic, although there are ways for homosexual couples to aquire a child - it is complicated though. I'm not really sure how it works, if I recall correctly you need to get married with the opposite gender (lets say a friend who wants to help you), adopt a kid, then get divorced and then live with your real partner anyway. But I am not sure about this.