How to turn someone down nicely? (opposite sex is flirting with me...)

Oh, that's hard! If you're comfortable with it, I'd just casually mention a guy you've dated and see if she catches on. Or you could go the bold route and just tell her that she's very lovely, but you're not looking for anything.

 

I think SpiritBird has an excellent idea with the guy you've dated thing! That way, it's not like "I know you want me but I'm not interested", it's less awkward in my opinion If you're comfortable with that of course. If not, you could always say that you can't wait to return to your "girlfriend" back home, which again may be slightly weird seeing as you don't have one. I think the gay hinting would be best though.

 

If it's going to be done nicely, it's not going to make her feel 'stupid' or angry at herself for being interested in you. I'm not entirely sure whether you want to make her aware of your orientation, but you could bring it up somehow. Maybe start a conversation and talk about dream celebrity dates, ask who hers would be then make yours a guy.

What ever you do, keep it lighthearted and do your best to make sure she doesn't feel embarrassed for having liked you.

 

Do what i do. "Im sorry but i'm gay" or "Im sorry but I dont see you in *THAT* way. We could be friends though!"

 

I love Costa Rica!!! I hope you have had a great time there. What a beautiful country. Anyway, me, I would tell her, "you're so pretty, you know, if I were straight I would definitely want to date you!"

 

She can hint all she wants, but if she never asks you out then you never have to turn her down.

You could go a couple of routes here: drop hints that you're not interested, or be oblivious until you leave for home. If you drop hints, you don't even have to mention that you've dated a guy before (or something similar that wouldn't be lying), you could mention that you might start looking for a relationship with someone close to home. That would be your preference anyway, I'm assuming.

Also, that's really cool that you're in Costa Rica!

 

If you end up at the pool again with her, just pick out an attractive guy and start talking about how attractive he is while she's near you... I mean, it's an idea xD But if you want a simpler approach just say that you have someone special you're seeing back at home! Good luck, have fun!

 

Just a week ago I turned down a schoolmate (girl) who I have noticed has been into me very much lately.

We were out drinking with classmates, and at one point we ended up outside together, alone and I think she expected I am gonna try to kiss her. So instead, I said "I hope I'm not thinking too much of myself, but lately I've noticed you like me and I am sorry but I am actually more into guys and I think people should be hones to each other"

She said I am right that she likes me, but took it positively. She was kinda' disappointed, complained jokingly that "all the best guys are gay" but said that she is glad that I have told her. We ended up dancing together the rest of the night just for fun, it was great fun She is one of the few people that know so far.

So, if you know that your friend is tolerant, don't hesitate and tell her!

 

Congratulations on coming out to your friend! Every one counts! And she's so right! All the best guys ARE gay! :lol:

 

Good luck!

 

and she was probably a bit relieved to know the reason that you weren't responding to her signals. well done! thanks for showing us how to do it, the right way!

 

Good job man, you've done the right thing