Am I Afraid of Getting Attached?

It's funny to read this since I've felt exactly like this, both lately and in the past. If you wanna have a proper conversation rather than just via posts, please send me a message, it might be theraputic for the both of us.

 

you could actually be with more people around him until you feel more comfortable! invite some friends over as well and watch a movie all together, joke around and try to see how you talk and feel around him.
Best of luck~

 

Intimacy involves risk. This is a challenge for myself also. If we open up and reveal more of ourselves to someone, we can get closer to them, and can enjoy the happiness that comes from sharing some of our life with that person. But along with that, comes the 'risk' that if something goes wrong, we get hurt. I think the trick is to develop trust gradually, get to know someone over time, see how they are in various kinds of situations, observe them as you get to know them. Don't just see the picture you want to see of them, see them as they are, if possible. Most folks, in the early stages of a romance, 'project' upon their new-found flame a sort of 'idealized version' which may or may not accord with actual reality. Then later down the track, when the initial high of neurochemicals associated with romance etc begins to stabilize, they begin to notice that their special person isn't perfect after all...but that's normal, of course, cos none of us are perfect, including ourselves.